Dear all,
i appreciate there will be divided views on this topic but I really want some advice/thoughts to think about.
I am going through a divorce and met a man on Bumble in May of last year. He lives abroad but comes relatively frequently to London for work. We hit it off instantly and we meet up for dates when he is in town and I’ve always had such a lovely and romantic time with him.
He told me he and his wife separated after she had an affair with a previous partner. Over time I had noticed that while I would occasionally mention my divorce, he really didn’t speak about his. Although he lives outside of Europe, he was using a UK number - he used to live in London so I put it down to a legacy thing.
Suddenly his number disappeared from WhatsApp and I didn’t hear from him for two months. Then suddenly I recieved a “like” on Bumble and realised it was him and he had created a new profile. It was largely the same but he had changed his age by 5 years. He messaged me and said he was in London, had lost his phone and contacts and didn’t know how else to get in touch. He gave me a new number which was also a UK number.
i found that really odd that he would get a new UK number when he doesn’t live in UK or Europe. Well a reverse image google search on a photo he sent me told me a lot. He doesn’t work where he said he did, he is married and has two children. Many recent photos with his wedding ring on. I am assuming he used a burner phone and buys UK SIM cards.
im utterly devastated. I was with my husband for 15 years and the divorce is horrible. The excitement and happiness this man brought me was what was keeping me going and now I feel like such a fool to realise he doesn’t care about me at all. I wasn’t under any illusions that we were going to get married but equally I liked him so much and thought he really cared for me.
I do want to confront him but I’m also contemplating getting in touch with his wife. I can only imagine how hard it will be for her to
hear but I know if it was me I’d want to know. I also feel that it may stop him from duping/catfishing other women if there is a consequence to his behaviour. He travels frequently globally for work so I’m sure there are other people like me in the picture.
thoufhts and advice please!