I have a close male friend - he's a friend of the family. Recently, we've been spending more time together, mainly with family but at the weekend we went out for couple of hours on own.
This guy is literally perfect 'future life partner material'. I was in a long term abusive relationship - this ended 5 years ago now and we share a DD. The guy in question very clearly has feelings for me. However, despite him being an absolute dream I do not fancy him. He's not a bad-looking guy I just don't fancy him but do at time enjoy his company.
My best friend said she thinks I'm shutting him out because I have huge commitment issues and quite a lot of unresolved trauma from previous relationship (which I have had counselling on/off for this).
However, as I'm now 35, I have started to wonder if it's worth dating him with the hope that I might change my mind. I have dated lots of idiots, however despite feeling very comfortable on my own, over Christmas, I did start to miss being in a relationship (for the first time in a very very long time).
He's a bit too eager and I think that's what puts me off him, whereas in the past I've always been attracted to players, unavailable narcissistic men. And I think at my age (particularly if one day I decide I want another child) I need to settle with a decent person.
When I went out with him at weekend he sat close by and I felt creeped out which tells me maybe it's not right. I'm not sure what to do.