Going to the gym for attention?

[Gabriella12]

I’m wondering whether I’m just being paranoid and going over the top, but thought I’d ask for some opinions regardless.

So my husband is obsessed with the gym, weight lifting to be precise. He literally goes every single day unless he’s ill ( which is rare ) or if he works late ( he owns his own business ). It’s got to the point where he’s very muscly and he gets a lot of comments from other people. I just find it bizarre as he’s never been interested in the whole 15 years that we’ve been together. He even went every day when we were on holiday. I mean, he looks great, but I feel he’s doing it for an ulterior motive other than just fitness.

I compliment him a lot, but he just says it doesn’t count what I say as I’m his wife and have to compliment him. He also said if really attractive girls were to make a comment that when he’d know that he was doing well, which is so unlike him to say.

I just feel as he’s pushing 40, and happily married ( as far as I know ), it’s weird to have such an obsession. I’d rather he took the kids or dog out more instead of going there every day. I feel we have a fairly good sex life aswel so I don’t think it’s that.

Anyway, hopefully I get some useful comments. Thanks. G xxx

I can't say I'd have much time for a man who told me my compliments didn't mean anything because I was his wife and not some gym bunny he doesn't even know. He either said it deliberately to be cruel or he lacks the emotional intelligence to see that it is cruel. Either way it sounds like he's been skipping personality day.

Yeah he is doing it for attention and he literally told you your compliments and attention aren't valuable to him.
He wants validation and attention from attractive young women because hr is insecure and takes you for granted.

The thing is, he was attractive before he went to the gym, and he was with women before me. So it’s not like I’m only person he’s ever been with.

So he is a bottomless pit for female adoration!
It could also be having a big birthday coming up. Some guys run marathons, have affairs, buy sportcars or have cosmetic surgery at the loom of a big birthday.