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It will happen when you least expect it/ stop looking

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AngelsCake · 28/12/2024 23:46

What’s people’s thoughts on this? I hear it a lot but Mr right is obviously not going to knock on my door! What do people mean by this? Most people meet online these days so must be actively looking?

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fishyrumour · 30/12/2024 11:00

Lavender14 · 29/12/2024 00:17

I take it to mean that it's good to make yourself available without putting pressure or getting overly hung up on it. Happiness and fulfillment are attractive so if you're in a good place in life and focused on what you've already good then to me that's going to serve you better than fixating on what you don't have. I don't think it means shut yourself off or stop dating and wait for someone to stop you in tesco and propose, but more to focus on other more important things and date for fun without stress? I think in a way its bound to set you up for healthier relationships as well because you know its something you'd like rather than need?

I think that's exactly it. When I've been desperate to make friends like when I was a first time mother, absolutely nothing. When I was making an effort to meet people but not necessarily make new friends I just did.

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