She seems to reject me because of political views

[Komarowsky]

Hi!

A woman started chasing me with what seemed to me genuine interest. We went out on several dates and had a lot of fun. She started calling/texting quite often.

In our last date she asked me about previous relationships and seemed very invested. However, at some point, as if checking the boxes in a list, she started talking about politics. When she realized I do not strongly support her political views she became kind of aggressive and dismissive.

Ever since, she has kept the contact - she still calls and contacts me from time to time and is cordial with me, but has become distant.

For me political differences are not a red flag, as long as I have a decent person in front of me. Furthermore, we did not discuss ideas or values, so I feel she is a bit bigoted and has reduced me to a stereotype.

I assume at this point I don't stand a chance, but I really like her and think she is a great person. Any idea what I could do to tear down the wall she has built between us?

Thanks!!!

I think you are getting an unfairly hard time here. You haven't said she owes you a relationship.

I'd also be upset if I were getting on really well with someone then found myself sidelined after saying that, while I voted Labour, I think the winter fuel allowance decision was a mis-step, or I voted Green but had concerns about sex-based rights, or SNP but felt Swinney had failed to make an impression.

Because I can see myself in that position, perhaps I'm reading your other posts in a different tone from others. There are people (often very intelligent people, weirdly) who are doctrinaire or tribal loyalists. So I don't see you as calling her stupid either.

That said, it does sound like you're not going to fix this. If it is indeed your tone/attitude then she's had a lucky escape, and if it's her blind tribalism, you have.

I wrote a very similar reply a week or so ago.
Funnily enough, most of the PP also sound like judgmental blind tribalism!