Sex for a year ehy won't he kiss me

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I already know the answer but I have been having sex with a guy for a year. He will not kiss me or touch my body. Literally afterwards throws a towel on me n I leave. I am ok with FWB but I feel shity everytime . He usually only last maybe 5 minutes.

Gather up your self-respect and bin him.

What the hell am I reading?

If this is a serious post, and I really hope it isn't, then surely you have to see that he is absolutely using your body and has no respect for you whatsoever. Block him and do some work on your low self-esteem before you see anyone else.

Hope he uses condoms, you don't know he could be doing the same with other women.

THIS.

Trust me I know how fucked up this is. If you have ever been in an abusive relationship you know how hard it is to end the cycle emotional physical. I feel more disappointed in myself for allowing him to treat me l7ke this.

I am so sorry OP. This is horrendous. He is treating you as less than an object. If your question is why he won't kiss you but continues to use you for penetration, it is because he has no respect for you, does not care for you in any way, and knows he doesn't even have to pretend like he does.

It's hard. But not impossible. You can break free, and resolve in future only to have sex that you enjoy. For me, that means kissing is included, and my pleasure us involved,not just his. (Generally, if I'm having a wonderful time, so will he.)

He's physically abusive to you?

Whilst I have a lot of sympathy for you, you have one advantage over those stuck in abusive relationships - you are not in a relationship with this man.

Book yourself into therapy asap, because you will keep letting him treat you this way until he’s either had enough, or you find the courage to block him from your life.

if you find yourself feeling particularly strong willed one day, block all methods of contact with him, delete him number and any messages etc from your phone so you cannot find him again. If you can, get a new phone or a new telephone number (if on contract, tell them you are escaping an abusive relationship and ask if you can have a new number to stop him from being able to reach you) - that way if you unblock him in the future, he doesn’t have your number to contact you. Tell your friends not to let you leave with him.

it’s going to be hard, but remind yourself how you deserve better.

Thank you so much for all the support

You're in the role of "free prostitute", why are you putting up with this shyte? Some emergency introspection is needed. Nothing wrong with FWB or fuck buddies but he's not your friend and there's no benefits.

You could literally find ANYONE else for a FWB arrangement better than this guy.

That is absolutely right and the sad thing is I know he doesn't care or respect me. He doesn't deserve me. I have blocked him

Jesus. Please stop doing this to yourself.

Well done

Well done! I am so, so pleased to read this. Keep telling yourself how you deserve better and stay strong. Do your paths cross usually? If so, make a plan for how you will deal with seeing him. Personally I’d be tempted to make a comment about him needing a blow up doll as you have vacated the role.

I’d also make sure all of your friends know what a crap lay he is - you don’t want one of them to end up in position.

Good luck!

Some bad advice here.

Obviously don’t spend any time thinking of bitter things to say when you see him. He won’t care. He knows how he’s treated you. A simple good morning and carry on walking past is way good enough for him.

Also don’t go round talking about what he is like at sex. It will make you look bad, not him.

Keep him blocked, hold your head up high, consider some therapy and be kind to yourself.

You don’t think her friends should be forewarned in case he targets them next? Why does he deserve anything other than the truth to be told about him?

and she should prepare what she will say or do because otherwise she may mind herself leaving with him. It doesn’t have to be a comment like I would make - I wasn’t suggesting that she should say that, just saying I personally couldn’t help myself.

He is treating you like a free sex worker. Please do some work on yourself and your self esteem and stay away from men until you have, you deserve so much more. xx

I think it all depends on where does this man belongs. If he's some random she met on the web a block will just do (he treated her like a kleenix so he deserves the ghosting), if he works with you I would let him know that you "just started dating someone and no longer interested in hook ups".

Nobody knew about us other then a few of my friends. He wouldn't even acknowledge me in public the one time I seen him and we were having Sex.

Then block him with no explanation, he doesn't deserve your energy. Next time you go into a relationship (serious, FWB or whatever) make sure you know why you're going into it and at want from it. Walk away at the first red flag or sign of mistreatment of any sorts. There's absolutely nothing wrong in having a casual thingy but FWB's need to be treated with respect and kindness (works both ways). Just because you're casually having sex with someone doesn't mean he's entitled to treat you like his blow up doll, that's not the way it works.

Totally this

Remember OP that FWB the clues in the name. You’re first and foremost Friends and you’re both supposed to Benefit from the arrangement. It’s supposed to be a mutually respectful arrangement not one treating the other like an unpaid sex worker.

Thank you. Reading these helps me stay strong.

Is this a genuine post? Surely no one would put up with that. If ut is genuine you need to seriously look at your self esteem and get your life on track, get some routines going, join a groupnyou are interested in, change jobs, anything but get sone pride and purpose in your lufe.