Eye contact during foreplay?

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I didn't know where else to post this so here goes, I have been seeing someone for a while and it's like we are friends, but with benefits, today one thing led to another and I was giving him a blow job - he wanted me to look at him whilst he was having an orgasm, I have been thinking about this none stop now because to me it felt very much like it was very intimate for 'friends' 🙈🤷‍♀️ is this what most guys do? Or does it mean something? 🤔

You're worried about being too intimate with someone with their penis in your mouth?

Today I'm officially old.

Considering we aren't a couple and he classes us as friends with benefits then yeah, he wanted eye contact and it took me be suprise as I thought it's just what couples do. I only wanted some advice.. 😏

You make it sound as though having sex is normal in your friendships but that you have never actually had a romantic sexual relationship.
It sounds really sad.

You have his cock in your mouth... how much more intimate can you get?

Anyway, eye contact during that scenario is generally considered pretty normal. It's not exactly a mad fetish or a kink.

I have had a relationship of 4 years in the past and he didn't like eye contact, I do really like this guy I have been seeing, it's just he says we are friends but I kind of feel like he thinks more of me than just a friend to want to look into my eyes, I just wanted some opinions

I wish I didn't post this now. I just feel silly

He's been watching too much porn

No need to feel silly.
What it means is impossible to say. It certainly sounds like more than friendship to me. It seems the real issue here is that you really like him and you're scared he doesn't feel the same. You should probably reel back on the intimacy and talk to him about that, see where you both are.

Your thread title is a bit misleading - he wants eye contact while he's climaxing not during foreplay, or at least that's what your first post says ...

Meeting someone's eye is generally considered part of normal interaction. It shows you're paying attention and engaged.

Meeting someone's eye during sex is a way of connecting with your partner. Even if you are fwb, not meeting their eye can make them feel disconnected and unimportant.

I don't understand why your ex didn't meet people in the eye but it's unusual behaviour.

I think you're seeing what you want to see
He sees your set up as a FWB you want more & you're looking for signs he's looking for more too

Whatever you do don't try and convince yourself he wants more than friendship if he's telling you it's just friendship - That's one way to hurt your own feelings.
Don't try and read into it or find signs he likes you more than just friends, you'll drive yourself mad.
Just enjoy the s*X and eye contact during a blowy is pretty normal X

Thank you for your reply, yeah I think that's what I am feeling and that's the issue, I just wanted to see what other people thought, I know blowjobs and sex are intimate times but i have never had someone want eye contact with me whilst climaxing - even my previous partner so It had me wondering if most guys do this or if it could mean he likes me more than I thought he does x

What just because he wants some eye contact? Odd take.

My first thought was the porn thing too. That position, looking up in that way, makes women seem very vulnerable/adoring. It sort of glorifies the male appendage and gives him power (even though he is actually in a very vulnerable position too!).

Alternatively he could be wanting to feel close to you. But that sounds unlikely based on the other stuff you've said.

Not many men actually have their eyes open at the point of climax, IME, and nor do I, even though one guy is particularly keen on wanting me to look at him as I orgasm. I can see why someone might want it - eye contact can be powerful, but the middle of an orgasm is not the time for control.

My last boyfriend is blind. He had some limited sight, but he has never known the colour of my eyes. I mean, I've told him, but he can't see it for himself. He does look at me when I speak, but that's to hear. There is more to life than eye contact, in the end, and other ways of communicating.

If he wanted to be more than fwb he would be more already.

Oh gosh op. 'He says we are friends' ... but you like him. Please stop fucking him.

The wanting you to look (presumably, to look UP) at him during this act is because it makes you look submissive. The reason it feels too intimate, is because it puts you in a position of submission. It devalues you. It wouldn't with a partner who loves you. But it does with someone who, probably knows you want more from him but is telling you 'no, but you can still suck my dick'. He's getting a kick out of knowing he can treat you however he likes. He gets a kick from feeling like he is dominating you.

It will never be more than what it is now. And he's not a nice man. Stop shagging him. He's belittling you.

How depressing that you’re clinging onto something like this as evidence of how much he might like you. You’re sucking his d*ck and he wants to make it as enjoyable as possible for himself. That’s it.

maybe don’t give sexual favours away to men who don’t want to be in a relationship with you but are happy to use you for sex. Clearly you want more than what he is giving otherwise you wouldn’t even be wondering about this.

He wants you to feel submissive. Nothing to do with intimacy

You say he says that you're FWB yet you're trying to find signs if he actually likes you. Sounds like you have developed feelings for someone who sees you nothing but a quick shag at his convenience. Have some self-respect and stop sleeping with this man.

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As others have said it could just as easily be because it makes him feel powerful and makes you seem submissive.

How did he treat you after he climaxed?

Also if you want more and he's saying you're just friends then end this immediately!!

I think that's just a big turn-on for some blokes.

I think you're reading it as romantic, but it's likely it's just the visuals for him.

Do you want it to be more than FWB ?

The eye contact during his orgasm is just something that turns him on, I think.

As long as you’re happy to supply sexual favours without strings he will go along with it.

If you want more than that,youll have to stop. Tell him If he wants sex with you again he would have to agree to an exclusive relationship with you.Tell him you’re not interested in being a FWB. Then stop seeing him to show you’re serious.

If he has deeper feelings for you, you’ll know.It won’t be just about sex.

Obviously if you just want to be in a FWB situation that’s OK too. But he may have others on the side, besides you. Because FWB arrangements aren’t necessarily exclusive.

Communication is important. Talk to him about it and be clear about what you want. If he doesn’t fulfil your needs, move on.