Eye contact during foreplay?

[Lovi96xO]

I didn't know where else to post this so here goes, I have been seeing someone for a while and it's like we are friends, but with benefits, today one thing led to another and I was giving him a blow job - he wanted me to look at him whilst he was having an orgasm, I have been thinking about this none stop now because to me it felt very much like it was very intimate for 'friends' 🙈🤷‍♀️ is this what most guys do? Or does it mean something? 🤔

I would look too much into this. It's intimate, yes but not necessarily in a romantic way. It just happens to be what he likes (and how they usually do it in porn)

This is something that men find very sexually attractive during such activities..I couldn't tell you why!!

If he's saying you're just friends, and unless he's trying to hang out with you all the time and talking about you to/introducing you to friends and family then he doesn't see you as anything more. Don't take his desire for eye contact during a blow job as a secret sign that he wants you to be his girlfriend.

Don't fall into the trap of taking crumbs from someone whom you like more than they like you. All you're doing is making yourself practically and emotionally unavailable to someone who could be a great match.

Absolutely correct.

My FWB is a filthy bastard and he always orders me to look at him when I'm giving him a blow job. He deffo doesn't love me 😀

Op if you're struggling with the whole FWB thing there's a good support thread here: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5042375-a-thread-for-fwb-survivors-perhaps-a-little-tongue-in-cheek

This is so strange 😂really strange you’re overthinking something sooo bad.

you literally are doing sexual things and your over thinking eye contact.

man up and if it’s really that hard for you to cope with don’t do it ever again.

This thread is all shades of grim..

You're clutching at straws here.

If he wanted to be more than FWB then you would be already.

You should stop seeing him before you get very hurt.

Its a turn on doesn't mean he loves you 😝

Eye contact during a bj is a well known kink/ turn-on for many people.

I would never think of this as related to emotional intimacy.

Sound very much like something he’s seen in. P*rn and wanted to try maybe? I’ve been with my husband for nearly 17 years and I don’t think I’ve ever stared him in the eye during a blowie - let me focus on the job in hand 😂😂😅

How so? Because it discusses (shock horror) sex?

He just wants to recreate porn, you aren’t special

Sounds like you have feelings for him that go deeper than just sex and are trying to gage if he does too? Why don't you just ask him? Don't have sex on the hope it will make him start wanting you, casual sex is hurtful if there's feelings involved.

Unfortunately because you like him, it looks like you are trying too hard to hope for signs he might feel the same. His want for you to be watching him is not a sign of intimacy, it's most likely a thing that turns him on in the moment.
Signs of being more than friends are taking you out on dates, doing things for you, like cooking, PDA's, and most importantly, acknowledging that you are a GF. That he is still saying you are a friend is most telling. Did he say from the start he just wanted fwb, or has he changed the goalposts? We're you trying to be cool with it, just because you liked him? - always a bad idea. Once you catch the feels for a fwb, you should always end it. If he felt the same, he'd tell you on being ditched - that's how you find out. Sticking around and giving him BJ's with eye contact in the hope he changes his mind, is demeaning yourself and going to make you more upset when it does end.

Best stay away from the Sex topic then....

As others have said, I think it’s just a turn on for him and that’s it. He wants you to look up at him so he can see if you’re enjoying it too, maybe wanting a cheeky grin as you’re doing it but beyond that you’re just reading too much into it.

Its a power thing. And you say foreplay but mean when he jizzes.

Oral sex massively increases risk of cancer and is on a steep rise 🤢 . Google it . Just putting that out there incase you don’t know 😊

Do not be lulled into a sense of emotion from this man during a blow job. Been there, it means absolutely nothing. If he likes you he'll show that in other ways like affection, thoughtful gestures, acts of service, etc. sounds like time to check out before you get hurt to me!

This x100.

This..

Always give the eye contact ha