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Does your partner always lock the bathroom door?

89 replies

AConcernedCitizen · 07/11/2024 18:33

My partner locks the bathroom door. Always.

Now, I completely understand this if other people are in the house, but even when it's just the two of us he has the lock on, whether showering, bathing or using the toilet.

I find this a bit weird, but fine, whatever. He tells me he doesn't know why he does it, but always has. Says he even does it when he's in on his own.

I know this is true because three times in the last few years he's ended up locked in various toilets 😅 Once in our house, when handle broke and I came home to him trying to remove it from the inside using nail files, scissors and a toothbrush, once after staying at a mates house (thankfully had his phone on him this time as his mate had left for work and hadn't told him the lock was broken) and once, most embarrassingly, at a hotel on a work trip.

Does anyone else's partner do this? And if so why?

To get a few obvious things out of the way...

  • He's not texting another woman in there - there's no wifi or mobile signal in our downstairs loo so he rarely, if ever, takes his phone with him.
  • He's not watching porn/wanking - He's quite welcome to do that in much more comfortable places than the bathroom and as above, no internet.

He unfortunately suffers from Crohn's, which means he can be in the bathroom a lot and it isn't exactly a pleasant experience. He says he doesn't think the two things are related, but I guess if that's a habit he's gotten into over the years, that could be it?

This is super light-hearted obviously, but I'm curious if anyone has experienced similar!

OP posts:
Ihaveoflate · 08/11/2024 11:41

No, we don't lock the bathroom doors unless there's guests in the house, but I wouldn't think anything of it if he did lock the door.

If the door is closed, we generally don't walk in or we just shout 'I'm on the loo!' if we don't want to be disturbed.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 08/11/2024 11:44

Doesn't everyone lock the door?

Surely it becomes habit growing up? Don't want parents walking in on you having a shit/shower/wank, so lock the door. By the time you're living alone it's just second nature.

dollybird · 08/11/2024 11:50

GivingUpFinally · 07/11/2024 18:40

I never ever lock the door. If a door is closed in ours, we always knock.

Both dh and I float in and out of the bathroom when we're showering or bathing. Often to continue a conversation or pass on info. Not always but a few times a year.

Same here, although I have started locking the downstairs loo door when 2yo DGD is here as she can just reach the handle.

K0OLA1D · 08/11/2024 13:37

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 08/11/2024 11:44

Doesn't everyone lock the door?

Surely it becomes habit growing up? Don't want parents walking in on you having a shit/shower/wank, so lock the door. By the time you're living alone it's just second nature.

Obviously not

2Sensitive · 08/11/2024 14:19

If u read ur own post you'll find the answer in there.

Hoppinggreen · 08/11/2024 14:21

I have to remind DH to shut the door

converseandjeans · 09/11/2024 11:39

You must be bothered by this enough to make a thread on Mumsnet. I find it more weird that you are bothered about it. Surely if he has Chrons he wants some privacy? It's not something that most people would notice.

gingerbreaded · 09/11/2024 11:43

I can’t believe you’ve started a thread about this. His behaviour is fine - you’re being weird.

user1471538283 · 09/11/2024 18:17

I don't and neither does my bf. I can't remember the last time I had a wee in peace. First my DS when he was small, now mainly the cat and sometimes him.

But I'd get it if he wanted to and it makes him feel more comfortable.

Relaxedandchilled · 09/11/2024 18:29

I sometimes lock often don’t. Always shut the door. My husband seldom even shuts It, I wish he would , as hearing him shitting isn’t enjoyable.

MrsPostmanPat · 09/11/2024 18:36

If my DS is home my DP (not his father) will lock the door. If it's just the 2 of us home the door is either shut/unlocked (if he's on the loo) or wide open if he's in the shower. I only lock the door if I'm on the loo.

Sneezeless · 09/11/2024 18:52

Poor bugger, let him crap in peace

Gwenhwyfar · 09/11/2024 19:03

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 07/11/2024 19:07

I would but we don’t have a lock on the door

Same here. I always put something across the door and put the light on. I don't want anyone seeing me on the pan. Why would you?

Mindymomo · 09/11/2024 19:08

Been with my DH over 40 years, never seen him on the toilet nor has he seen me. He was diagnosed with colitis last year and spends a lot of time in the bathroom. We have a rule in the house that we close the bathroom door so if it’s shut, it’s because someone is in there.

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