So, just a few examples and I am just wondering why he is like this. Surely this is really strange behaviour and should be the opposite?
The worst period with him was after giving birth to me daughter. I could hardly walk downstairs. He made me bread with butter whilst he ate normal meals. He made me pizza one night and shouted at me for falling asleep when it was ready. On our first walk with our daughter, he stormed ahead and I couldn't catch up as I had a lot of stitches. I'm sure I was losing my mind with PND and I opened up about it and he said “you would have that, wouldn't you”
For my daughter's first birthday, he caused a huge argument just before all the guests arrived. He even tried to leave and not help me with anything. He does this on Christmas and birthdays.
I found a lump in my breast and he was awful to me. Really awful. Thankfully after an examination, it was clear.
Whenever I have a race he never comes to support me, not once.
He never does any gardening so his mum paid for a gardener to sort out our garden. I was incredibly happy with the results and he threw a broom on the floor and started shouting at me “You get everything you want!!!!”
It’s anytime I find joy in something he finds a way to take away my happiness.
He always does what he wants, I accommodate all of his training, competitions, and weeks away for training camps, and I'm very supportive. He would say the opposite which is unfair and untrue.
He is so incredibly selfish. He only buys himself food, only cooks for himself, doesn't contribute to anything at all, he very tight with money, very resentful when sending me a top-up as my hours at work are short due to our daughter's nursery times, which isn't my fault as he won't help. The only joy or interest he shows is in Jiu-Jitsu.
I said all of this to him, told him how he acts like a bachelor and doesn't deserve a family. I was completely set on leaving and he talked me out of it. I've applied for social housing as I rely on him financially. Yesterday as a “joke” he was calling me, stupid, dump, wrinkly and re*arded all day.