Hi @OddTrek38, I haven’t posted on your thread before now, but can relate as my brother did the same to me between the ages of 6 and 8 and then to an extent until I was 15.
We shared a bedroom until I was 10 when we ‘had’ to move (council property the rules of a boy & girl sharing the same bedroom was a no-no past the age of 14 (for the male/boy)).
Even once I had my own bedroom he’d still ‘grope’/push himself against me until I got to the angry teenager stage. I can’t remember what I may have said or done to make it stop mind you.
Saying that, and yes I was snooping, I found things, very explicit things, written about me in a notebook of his when I was 17. They were so graphically described I actually threw up. He was 21 at the time FFS!!
It’s been on my mind since, I’m now 51. ExH thought it was just ‘normal’ behaviour when I mentioned it to him (though I did leave out the graphics), but now DH was mortified and said I should tell my mother.
i haven’t and I ‘can’t’. She’s on her own now (widowed following death of D stepdad), and I honestly feel that if I tell her it will kill her off. Myself and my younger DB aren’t local to her anymore, but the elder ‘perpetrator’ lives 10 minutes away from her.
He’s a useless cunt, works 5 mins away from DM, but only visits about twice a year. DM always finds an excuse as to why he hasn’t popped in on his lunch break or visited when he’s not working. It sort of feels like a justification on her part because he’s the eldest, he’s busy, he’s a bloke etc..
I’ve told younger DB what he did to me (again not the graphics) and he’s fully supportive of me reporting it to the Police, which I have done, though only so it’s on record, as I didn’t want to take it further at that time. That’s not to say I won’t.
My only way of processing what he did is to go ‘postal’ on him after DM passes away. Myself and younger DB are executors of her will and estate, elder B not an executor because his wife is a money grabbing bitch, always has been and would def steer to the cheapest care home (if needed for DM if it came to it), raid the house before my mum is cold etc.
My plan, given how infrequently elder B visits is to have DM’s funeral done and dusted without him & his wife, get DM’s house sold before he would even notice and cut him off. He doesn’t know where myself or younger DB live, or our contact details, and vice versa as I couldn’t give a shit about elder brother and have no contact with him at all, unless by complete accident he turns up at DM’s whilst I’m there, which has prob only happened 3 times over the last 25 years
Many will say I’m petty or spiteful but it’s my way of dealing with it when the time comes. I have had therapy, which has helped to an extent, but feel that my way is the justice I need to be able to move on.
Have you considered reporting him to the Police, even if you don’t want to take it further at this stage?