Small things that have given you the ick when online dating

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Does anyone else fancy a laugh about the traumas of online dating (lighthearted) and that feeling of getting the ick mid-date?

I had a really silly one recently where I went on a third date with someone. I was already in the minds about him.

Anyway, we'd done an activity then went to get food afterwards and it was ordered on screens. The previous date I had paid and so it was already agreed that he was buying me lunch.

All good.

So, we got to the bit where the screens to order food were. I'm used to doing this in McDonald's for my kids 🤣 and always usher them to go ahead and put their food order in. So I suppose unconsciously I was expecting him to let me go first?

What he actually did was RUSH to the machine ahead, of me JAB in his order so hard he nearly broke the machine and just kind of....stood there. I sort of waited for him to offer me the screen and he didn't say anything. So I silently put my order in.

It seems such a small thing, and it is a small thing. But it took me back to being a child ans having a sibling who will rush to get on the swings before you 🤣

Thankfully I never slept with him but I can imagine how it would have gone.

Has anyone else got the ick from something as petty or is it just me?!

Ain’t that the truth

Agree. I met someone whose main photo turned out to be 8 years old. Something had obviously happened in the interim as while he looked quite nice in that pic he turned up with a drinker's face like the bonanza map that was a complete shock to me (and sorry if that's shallow, but I wouldn't have clicked on it if I knew how he looked as alcohol abuse is a real red flag for me).

You mean spider veins and redness? You know that’s not always down to drinking and is a natural part of ageing for a reasonable percentage of people? I’m starting to get spider veins like my nan did, and I’m teetotal. I dread it getting worse and looking like I’m an alcoholic, when it’s just genetics. Still, whether he’s a drinker or not, he should have put a picture up of how he actually looks. I don’t understand why people do that, as if you wouldn’t notice when they turn up

@PumaKinPie OMG, that goes beyond chicken, doesn't it. It seems really misogynistic and just bizarre. Why the fuck would you know or think you know what that looks like? Was he a hardcore vegan activist? Even then fucking hell.
What is wrong with some people!? 🤣🙃

@TheQueeen I have spider veins on my cheeks that are part genetics and part due to spending a lot of time outdoors.

This guy put up pictures from 8 years ago with the level of spider veins you're referring b to. When he arrived on the date he looked nothing like that - his nose was bright red and bulbous in a way it hadn't been in the earlier photos. He may have had a medical condition but still since he regaled me with stories of drunkenness and then 'popped' into the corner shop and picked12 cans of Stella on the way back to our cars I suspect he had a serious issue with alcohol.

I wouldn't have wasted both of our time if he'd posted a recent photo.

Funnily enough odd socks to me is just a ‘life’s too short to sweat the small stuff’

@Lelophants no... 3 separate men. 3 separate dares. I've been single for over a decade now. Really not in any hurry to go anywhere near OLD any time soon.

This has reminded me of one who matched with me, seemed lovely for the first few messages, then sent me an (admittedly polite) ‘thanks but no thanks’ when I made it clear I didn’t want more children.

He was in his mid-50s. Did he really think he was going to meet someone online who’d agree to mate with him within a few messages?

Because average white men are the ones with all the privilege, and the accompanying confidence.

Ha well that explains it then!

Very outdated, I know many black people who are very privileged and many white people who are not, we don’t live in the past, we live in the present, anyone can get ahead nowadays and create privilege for their kids. My parents gave me a roof over my head and that’s about it. Everything I’ve got I’ve worked my arse off for. Nowadays most employers are looking to make sure they hire minorities over white people. When my family came here from Ireland in the 30s they couldn’t get a mortgage, couldn’t get jobs that reflected their education, just the most menial jobs around, and the signs that said “no blacks” said “no Irish” on them too. Where was their white privelege? Time to look around you at the actual reality. It’s people who work hard nowadays who get ahead, and nobody gets any privileges that anyone else is exempt from, the only priveleged people who don’t have to prove themselves as those who have family wealth.

White privelege is a racist term, you are stereotyping an entire colour, when many of those individuals have never had any privileges to speak of. But of course to stereotype a whole group of non whites with some general statement about them, is the only racism you accept.

Why would you match with them if you didn’t like the shirtless pic and their username?

Me too. I prefer it tbh!

Also, from a man’s perspective, because believe it or not men can get the ‘Ick’ as well.

• the date that looked like a size 12 in her profile but turned out to be at least 5 dress sizes bigger. To make it worse, we went for a beach walk and bumped into some friends of mine. They knew instantly I had been cat fished.

• the date who within 10 minutes asked if I liked anal sex and proceeded to explain in great detail how much she enjoyed it with her previous boyfriend.

• the date that sat in complete silence for an hour before I made my get a way.

• the date that decided to bring her one year old son to our first date

• the date that thought it was amusing to belch the entire time we were having dinner on our second date and couldn’t stop laughing about it.

oh Wow!

Ditto big guys. My mate went on a date with a bloke who described himself as ‘average body’ when he arrived he was a good 25 stone! And he kept saying to her everyone says he carries his weight well - err no you don’t mate

Same with men.

This is another one that isn't a date, but a male friend. He constantly talks about how his life was always so easy for him and women always threw themselves at him because he was so tall.

Whatever happened, it would always go back to his height. He repeatedly vocally claimed to be 6'4.

The weird thing is it might have been a few inches close to the truth when I first met him. But he seems to shrink every time I see him. The guy is in his mid 60s so these things happen.

But last time he said it I looked up at him and realised he couldn't be more than about 5'10.

I'm just wondering how much longer he's going to be using that as his one and only achievement in life? 🤣

Some men are convinced they have a cervix these days.

Oh God, the flip flops between toes 2 and 3 is still making me cry laughing. Can't remember the page to quote, but thank you, whoever you are.

Never got past texting because of his spelling and grammar. He also called me babe in every message. Told him how annoying I found it and cut contact.
A few months later he was in the papers for race, murder and dismembering a poor woman

Rape not race