How many us us don't mind our dh's/dp's looking at porn? How does it affect your relationship?

[DrNortherner]

Dh always has from the day I met him. In fact all my previous boyf's did too. (not sure what that says about me!)

I have no issue with it at all. I have always said that, dh can use it openly and I don't object.

With all these threads from women who are distraught cause they find porn on the PC, it gets me thinking.

We have a good relationship and a helathy sex life.

How about you?

oooh lots of theads on this befoe northerner

a;lways ends in tears

(the threads, not porn)

Oh good. Should be interesting then

I wouldn't like it.
Wanna step outside? Eh?

I always thought it came with the territory (i.e. men)

Me to MP - but have been flamed on here before for beleiving all men look at porn!

My DP doesn't do it openly but I once looked at his history on the computer and felt sick. I felt a bit betrayed. But then I thought about it and decided I really wasn't that bothered, it's perfectly normal and why should he tell me everything? I have never said anything to him.

morningpaper, i tend to agree. my ex-h is a stockbroker, and always claimed he didn't go to lap dancing bars when all the others did. luckily i'd worked in the city for years and knew that they all said the same to their wives.... SOMEONE must be going to those places to keep them in business... same with porn, amazing there is an industry in it given that so many men say they don't use it.

I'm not sure it's the norm for every man to look at or enjoy porn (ie not actively seek it out)

But I reckon it's the norm for most men to look at or enjoy it if it lands in his lap, so to speak

Wouldn't bother me as long as it was in the open. Tis secrecy that would bother me.

DH has an oddly low sex drive and has sod all interest in porn as far as I can tell (no, I am not naive, he is one of these weirdy blokes who pass gorgeous women in the street that I notice and he doesn't bat an eyelid)

I don't have a problem with it if Dh wants to look then that's fine by me.

I don't have an issue with it as long as it's open and not considered a secret

I had a couple of male friends who swore blind that porn didn't do it for them. But one of them turned out to have had a long term affair while married, so that doesn't really say much.

I do think most men look at porn, and I think that in most cases its a pretty okay way of getting thrills without actually doing anything that could be classed as being unfaithful.

But everyone needs to decide where the line is in their relationship.

My DP looks at porn regularly and it doesn't bother me in the slightest and never will. We have an active sex life and he has never kept the porn a secret.. in fact I sometimes like to look at it too.. I don't feel betrayed or threatened as its pure fantasy.

Do you think it makes a difference once children comes along.

My DD has a lovely body and i sometimes joke that she will have no problem funding herself through uni as she could get a job in strip club.

H gets furious (double standards i think).

I dont have a problem as such as long as it is in the open but i think a lot of the thrill is doing something a 'bit naughty' and not allowed.

It makes me wonder how all these prostitues make money for their drugs if no men ever use them .

And i really am joking when i say that about my DD i would really hate her to do that - but if that is her informed decision i would have to accept it somehow.

I'm with you DrNortherner - I can't get worked up about it.

Oh yes, we have no dd but if we did dh would not want her or me actually to be a porn star.

Double standards me thinks.

Oh and dh's mates at work think I am cool as cool as they all have to hide it and be secretive.

I agree with Dr N, as long as its open I'm not bothered

...and whilst I don't look at porn, I will regularly drool over young men

I suppose it is no differnt to lots of things - if no-one really gets hurt and the porn stars are not exploited then it is fine. Its a money making industry and if people are prepared to waste spend money on it who am i to say they shouldnt.

One danger i do feel is that we are as a society though becomeing more 'accepting' and to get thrills things go further and further - that makes me seem like a moral prude but i do worry about the increasing exposure on the younger generation.

my dh looks at porn, it doesn't bother me. AFAIK he just looks at standard stuff, nothing outlandish, which I guess it probably wouldn't be so relaxed with.

Our sex life is fine.

oops, 'I wouldn't be so relaxed with', rather than 'it'

I really don't have a problem with my dh looking at porn,I don't think he does much but if he did,it wouldn't create a issue for me.

life is too fecking short!

I know DP indulges occasionally.

I'd rather he did that than shag some woman.

Itdoth not bother me.

I look at other men and thing "Fwoargh!" I am human, so is he

The key is knowing how far to take it. Ie. not acting upon it.

The only time I'd have something to say is if it involved animals/children/dead people