How many us us don't mind our dh's/dp's looking at porn? How does it affect your relationship?

[DrNortherner]

Dh always has from the day I met him. In fact all my previous boyf's did too. (not sure what that says about me!)

I have no issue with it at all. I have always said that, dh can use it openly and I don't object.

With all these threads from women who are distraught cause they find porn on the PC, it gets me thinking.

We have a good relationship and a helathy sex life.

How about you?

Bubba, I hope you're ok. It's horrible finding out, isn't it? I felt so sick and shaky. Part of me feels I overreacted but I hate the sleaziness of it

My dh tried to deny initially too which just made it worse

Lots of hugs for you.

She is indeed entitled to her feelings and I am sorry she is having a tough time. Is she getting everything she is entitled to, state-benefit wise? My point remains that if she finds chatline work distressing, it is utterly not worth it for the money and I wish her luck with finding other home-based work (have you tried posting on the employment/back to work threads on here for suggestions of things she could do?)
However your first post implied that your friend's experience was the 'real' or 'universal' experience of doing such work, and it isn't.

i think its shocking emotionaly but intellectually not. hated it when my dh admitted to viewing porn when i was away! but i feel for the women etc who have no option (they feel) other than to enter the industry

Ska, if I'd been away I'd feel less hurt. I was 10 feet away...

i dont give a shit.
it is no reflection on me.
nor is it a reflection of how i feel about him when i look at porn.
its fantasy.

Bubba, I wish I hadn't found it too - I was looking for a site I had visited earlier in the week and found more than I'd bargained for. And the site I was looking for was about writing CVs - boring! - not even pics of George Clooney with his shirt off [pathetic half-smile emoticon]...

CVs & chicken pox symptoms vs. porn - it's just not fair computer usage, is it?! [even more pathetic half-wink emoticon]

As far as I can see, it might depend on how you feel generally in your relationship. My xh used to stay up at night on the internet and look at teenagers & feck knows what else. We had years of crap behind us, and his 'viewing pleasure' bothered me very much because it was just one more way that he made me feel sh*t. With new dp, it doesn't bother me at all because he makes me feel loved, so it's not at all threatening.

I work porn chat lines too, and I enjoy it.

Porn is no issue as long as it don't involve kids, rape, animals and dead persona.
All the stuff I've heard on the phone is really very tame TBH.
Nothing wrong with him having a wank at the pc IMVHO.

My dh looks at porn on the pc and I don't mind at all. Just gives me a bit of a break. I think all men look at porn, some just hides it well.

Let's not forget that quite a few women like to look at porn as well - like all sexual activity or sex-related activity, it isn;t just something women do because men make them do it.

ROFL @ 'DEAD PEOPLE'

Re porn, erm not really something I can get worked up about. He does look, so long as it is kept in a secure place on the pc (we have teenaged children) then fine by me.

Some of his is a bit . The women are very normal/average looking, I don't think he is v aspirational where porniness is concerned.

Waitrose porn - would have an advert at the beginning of the film assuring you that any fruit and veg inserted anywhere was entirely organic and the chocolate spread they licked off each other was genuinely made from Fairtrade chocolate.

I dont mind, so long as its with me

or even gin comes later

Porn makes me feel crap about my own body, so yes I would mind. A lot.

Thing is MF you have to look at the bloke porn star aswell, i bet hes all muscles and pecs and HUGE willy, then (no offence) but looka t your DH, i bet he doesnt look like that, and as my DH says, hes not looking at and getting turned on by the womans body, but by the action

i dont mind it at all, and sometimes we watch it together. it doesnt always work for me though, and my DH has too look through a lot of stuff to find what he likes. what im saying is that even when you are ok about it, or like it, its not easy to find good stuff!!!