How many us us don't mind our dh's/dp's looking at porn? How does it affect your relationship?

[DrNortherner]

Dh always has from the day I met him. In fact all my previous boyf's did too. (not sure what that says about me!)

I have no issue with it at all. I have always said that, dh can use it openly and I don't object.

With all these threads from women who are distraught cause they find porn on the PC, it gets me thinking.

We have a good relationship and a helathy sex life.

How about you?

i bloody mind, if i found any i'd kick his ass

I feel alone in being bothered by it? Maybe once I get my head round it (so to speak!), I'll simmer. At the moment I'm at boiling point and feel very hurt.

Bubba - if it bothers you then you should say something. (It would bother me BIG TIME, if that's any consolation.)

Where's Elizabetth?

believe me, I said something and thank you, it does make a difference to me that I'm not the only one

Why are you bothered Bubba? Can fully appreciate it has probably made you feel even worse as you're not feeling tip top right now - but is the fact that having a quick perve at women in porno's who he'll never meet no consolation? If he has to do it, then I know i'd prefer that, to him finding someone to perve at in person..?

Besides, i'm sure he'll agree that those fake tanned/titted women have nothing on you and your bump in sexy flannel pj's

Course I prefer this to a real life woman, but it saddens me to think he's not turned on by me at the moment.

and how do you know about my sexy flannel PJs?

Dh doesn't have it in the house, and doesn't 'use' porn in that way (could always be wrong)

however, he is exposed to some bizarre titles at work, and yes he reads them- they all do. Granny porn, and some other more specialist stuff (he works for a company that transports these things btw, nothing more dodgy- most of his workload is the Times)

It's not something i get particularly upset over although if I ahd a choice then the stuff wouldn't exist in the forst place, would be upset if I thought he prefered it to me obv

'and yes he reads them'

ok culd be a bit naive

ogles them?

I know we all have em stashed somewhere!

I'm sure he is turned on by you. Try him. He may just think you don't want bothering right now because you're tired etc.

Porn is just far too easily accessible, and men are very visual when it comes to sex - so to have millions of naked women at the click of a mouse is just far too much temptation to resist

men being very visual is the problem though. btw I DO try, (and he responds well) but doesn't initiate and i've got to the wanting good jiggy hormones part of pg - I'd like to be wanted before the friendly, naked ladies

tell him how you feel bubba

I don't like the idea of dh looking at porn. I have ishoos and that's just the way it is

Luckily DH doesn't look at porn on the www or have stuff at home.

We would watch stuff together but with a teen and almost teen around most of the time it never happens. So don't mind doing it together but would hate him doing it alone iyswim?

I don't know why I read these threads as they always make me feel that I live in a parallel universe!!!!

My DH doesn't look at porn - he has no time, he needs all his time to read about cricket!

Last week I found out my dh has a site he likes to visit every now and then - wouldn't have thought he'd be the type but clearly I was sadly deluded. Felt sick and miserable at first but feeling better about it now - except for the fact that I always wonder now what he's looking at when I'm out! It's the secrecy I hate, and the seedy sordidness of it. Am trying to be ok with it but...

...am a little uncomfortable, tbh.

and while I'm not doubting those of you who say your dh never looks at it, do you know, last week I would have sworn in court to exactly the same. So I feel a bit stupid too.

it's just everywhere on the internet, we had a trojan that just bought up tons of really explicit pictures, kids were here and everything. makes me heave tbh

Exactly the same boat as me slayerette, and yes, Queen, my DH up until this point had only ever been known to read about cricket and football, internet or papers - (I'm not saying your DH is like my DH, just saying until yesterday I would never have said my DH did look at porn)

btw, OP said previous BFs had looked at porn - so had one or two of mine and I swear it didn't bother me in the slightest.

Being married and loving him (and all that bollocks )...

Dittany: I work on a sex chatline to make extra money. I don't consider myself as being 'sexually harassed' or hurt or harmed by it. It's a bit boring, but it's a way of earning a bit of extra cash which I can do while I'm at home and getting on with other stuff between taking calls. If your friend is frightened and upset by the work she should stop doing it and look for something else. Because, frankly, she will not make a living at it unless she works about a 40-hour week and even then it will be difficult.

I don't mind at all t.b.h. I don't think it the same as being a prostitite if you are making porn either.

Been going on for years and years, nothings going to change.

I don't always fancy having sex, but sometimes want pleasure when Dh isn't around. I don't see it as any different tbh