Would tattoos put you off a guy?

[HelenInHeels]

Just this, really, and why or why not?

Nope, that’s not what I said and you know it. You’re the one who posted you never hear any of us with tattoos ridiculing people who don’t have or like them and I merely drew your attention to one such post. I didn’t discuss the rights and wrongs of that post or the one it was in response to, just highlighted the post saying the thing you claim is never said.

Don't act so offended when your the one that's defending other offensive comments.

The ones leaving the derogatory comments won't like you any more be cause you swoop in to defend them.

I have a good tattoo story, told by dh's friend who is a tattoo artist.

This Edinburgh chap was working in South Korea and went to get a line tattoo of a Scottish thistle as he was homesick and feeling patriotic. The Korean tattooist asked what a thistle was, so the chap described one.
"You know, round with a crisscross effect, and a spray coming out of the top. Jaggy leaves."
"Ahh", said the tattooist, "I know what you mean."
He then proceeded to tattoo a pineapple onto the man's shoulder.

Said people do sometimes ask why he's got a tattoo of a pineapple. 😆

I don't like tattoos on anyone really, so it would probably put me off him, yes.

Lol. I’m not offended nor am I defending anyone else. You really need to read and interpret posts correctly instead of deciding they say what you want them to say.

Maybe read your own posts back then? You defending the people being rude and abusive, that's all I need to know about you.

Am I? Show me where I’ve defended rude or abusive people, please?

Are we comparing clothes that I can swap out, for permanent ink?

It reminds them of something special- you should know the name of your child, wife or your favourite animal- this is not the film Memento some people photos or trinkets or items as memories. Do you get this annoyed and opinionated towards them the same you do when someone decides to get a permanent tribute on their skin?

No, because one is painful permanent, can get infected and highly likely won't last as nicely - the others, you can pass on as heirlooms?

They think it's money well spent- good tattoos are expensive- why not spend it on therapy, invest, fix your teeth, learn a trade? better ROR why do you think it's an either or situation? I've got expensive tattoos and I've had therapy. I'm also qualified and educated in my role and own my own Nursery with a second site opening in the new year.

Genuinely happy for you- I am generalising I know, but these are my values. I cannot see the point in them.

Plus the thread is about men. I am a long standing believer as you can see on other threads that many men will literally do anything but seek therapy, tattoos are just an example imo

My issue is with the permanence of it all

Most of them aren’t very good so it does make me wonder what they were thinking (a bit like lip fillers). Occasionally tattoos can look amazing but is only when they have been done by someone extremely talented.

Why is that an issue for you?

You said

Feel free to tell me I look really bad without tattoos. And what I really need is a scribble of Marilyn Monroe/my dog/a crap rose. I’d disagree

And I said that no one would say you would look really bad without tattoos

You then say

Yes. And there’s a reason for that

So yes, you did rush to say tattoos look horrible.

Your entitled to your opinion but what blows my mind is you think it's perfectly acceptable to be so nasty and disparaging.

You can just say you don't like it it and leave it there, you don't need to continue harping on how bad they look.

Seeing as the thread is about men, it speaks volumes about their decision-making process. If a guy is willing to permanently mark his body without fully considering how he’ll feel about it in 10, 20, or 50 years, what does that say about his ability to think long-term in other areas of life—like relationships, finances, or personal growth?In my opinion, and it is an opinon- tattoos show me that they are likely to be impulsive or a lack of foresight, and for me, those are red flags in a partner. I can chuck motorbikes into that camp too. Don't get it.

So your saying if you really loved a dress and I hated it, you'd swap it out? Maybe you need counselling for better self esteem? I wouldn't cover any of my tattoos up because you don't like the look of them, yet by your values, I should spend money on therapy?

No one wants to deny you your values and you can have whatever values are important to you but at the same time, your values don't really hold up against the argument of for or against tattoos because the options you've given as alternatives can still be done and aren't either or situations.

@datcherygrateful

Up until I was 35 ish I was quite snobby about tattoos, having never dated any men who had them.

Then I started karate and most of the men have them and they are the nicest, kindest men you could hope to meet. Not saying that men without tattoos aren't, obviously, and equally saying that not all men with tattoos are lovely, obviously.

But my snobbery was definitely challenged and I changed my mind. (And subsequently found out that one of my brothers has a back tattoo).

DP has several tattoos. Some of them aren't great, tbh, but they are from his youth, and they're just part of him. And he's super hot 😁

Do you apply that logic to women?

What about men you describe that are that way and don't have tattoos?

The comparison between a dress and a permanent tattoo doesn't make sense!—clothes are temporary, changeable, and can be adapted based on how I feel or what fits MY life at that MOMENT. I not once said I would swap them out if you felt any way- I was asking where the comparison was.

Tattoos, on the other hand, are permanent, and that’s exactly why they require more long-term thought.

My point was never about self-esteem or trying to control someone else’s choices; it’s about understanding how permanence reflects decision-making- and here I am emphasising that thread is about MEN and whether I would be put off them.

I agree, and they all end up navy blue and smudged-looking in later life.

I don't date women. The thread is asking about men.

And yes, most men struggle with long term, decision making. Many men who impulsively go for shitty tattoos even more so.

A bit, probably. A lot if they were very big, a bit shit or on the face or neck. I'm just generally not a fan.

The odd one or two small meaningful ones no it wouldn't put me off .
Absolute no no's would be full sleeves , face neck hands .

I don’t mind tattoos - it wouldn’t necessarily stop me dating someone.

Im not keen on face ones, I didn’t really think it was a thing, in the last week seen two different men with face tattoos- one heavily and one with a few. Not really my cup of tea but both men lovely and polite - which I think is more important positives as a person so if I was single who knows!

My husband has none and isn’t keen on them - I have two so it didn’t put him of me!

There are posts through this thread where people with tattoos have been described as

Chavvy, cheap looking, mental health issues, disgusting looking etc.

One person says "people without tattoos have sticks up there bums"

And that's the comment you chose to get annoyed over to the point you had to come on and pull the poster up for saying it.

Like I said, tells me all I need to know.

marshmallowfinder · Today 13:24

StarSlinger · Today 13:16
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Yes, they look scrotey and rough. But obviously people feel differently. We all like different things.
I agree. They look chavvy