Kisses text

[roseyn91]

Does it bother you when another woman ends messaging to your husband with kisses when talking about work stuff

I never do this when talking to males at work

Am I overthinking

Recently a lady my oh working with sent three kisses

It annoys me

Do you have any reason not to trust your partner?

I'd struggle to get wound up about a third party ending a text with kisses. Lots of people do that. Bit unusual in a work context but I've seen it done plenty.

More to the point, why are you reading your partner's messages?

I was sitting right next to him both on day off and he was texting reference work stuff so looked over as it was pissing me off constant work messages.

I'm not checking his phone secretly

It has become a form of punctuation, don't read too much into it, unless the preceding text was discussing her administration for his manhood...

Ok just not something I do with male colleagues

You sound like you don't answer questions asked just want to make a point?
What's up
Have you had a bad day

Totally a form of punctuation - all the women in my work definitely do it, bar one who is a little bit older, and most of the men. One of the community groups we work with is run by a 70-year old male and he sends me about five kisses at the end of his messages bless him! I think it's common enough these days.

It would annoy me!

Some women I work with do but I think it’s weird tbh

I think it's very industry dependent. In media/creative industries I feel everyone does it - consultancies/financial sector not seen it at all. I wouldn't let it bother you it doesn't mean anything

Some people use kisses all the time.

I'd see it as a work problem if he's being contacted outside of work hours, which is intrusive and a terrible culture. So if he's not working from home, I'd be unimpressed at the regular messages about work.

Does he have form for cheating?

I agree OP. I send kisses to my female friends but not my male friends and wouldn’t to work colleagues. If i accidentally put them I would leave them (except when messaging exDH). I wouldn’t get worked up about it though. I would be bothered about constant work messages on day off.

I wouldn't think of it as flirting but it is inappropriate and unprofessional. And I work in the creative industries (if anything I think those kinds of workplaces are more aware of what's appropriate or not because we're always talking about what makes people feel uncomfortable, about the importance of being appropriate etc.)

This is a really good point, I've predominantly worked in the former.

I don't think x's at the end are flirty these days it's just friendly and people do it automatically. I would be lying if I said it wouldn't make me feel a pang of jealousy but that's a problem because rationally I know it's normal and just a thing, I do it at the end of my messages to people all the time

I have to say I’ve never seen a work related email or message with xx at the end. I’d find it very inappropriate tbh.

I must admit I find the fact some people end every message with a xx rather twee but seems like it’s probably a generational thing and I’m old 🤣

I get why you are saying this but please know that sometimes its almost as automatic as signing with your name at the end of a message

to the point I messaged my plumber and accidentally without thinking put kisses on the end and then had to apologise!

I add a kiss at the end of all text messages I send, regardless if male or female! I do the same with emails too! I did cringe and quickly apologised to the guy fitting our new windows, when I sent him a text with a kiss at the end 😬😂 I don't know him particularly well, so felt a tad awkward! He on the other hand thought it was hilariously funny!! So no harm done! I really wouldn't read too much into it, to be honest. For some people (like myself) it's a habit, and we just add kisses to every text. It's not meant to be a 'come on' or flirty.

glad I am not the only one sending accidentally kisses to workmen

Why is she messaging him at home?
Yes kisses are inappropriate and unprofessional for work context.
Does he send kisses to her?

I don't and I wouldn't either, OP, but I think sometimes it's just habit and people don't even realise they'e done it! A bIt like calling your school teacher Mum by accident or ending a phone call with the wrong person with: love you, bye.

It has become a form of punctuation

I think for many this is true. I do it with some friends but don't think it belongs in work communication. But then colleagues don't message me privately. Unless he sends flirty messages back, I'm not sure I'd worry.

I don't think he would
But I just think it's really weird

3 kisses is inappropriate. I don't put any kisses in my work chats, it's over-familiar and not business-like.