Kisses text

[roseyn91]

Does it bother you when another woman ends messaging to your husband with kisses when talking about work stuff

I never do this when talking to males at work

Am I overthinking

Recently a lady my oh working with sent three kisses

It annoys me

Yes I was so shocked as he was and is my best friend. I never expected it.
Our relationship was one of those where people would never have expected it and most people still don't know but any straying has been in his part.
He sat in a restaurant with another women and had a nice meal and said he was working. It wasn't your local fish and chip shop it was a nice restaurant we had been to and I liked and he knew I liked it. He broke my heart and the lady in question is still mates so yeah life can shock you

There's a woman on my local fb community group, actually she's on several and always posts and replies to posts with ........x on the end. Eg "Has anyone seen my cat .........x

It drives me mad! What's the point? Does she put it on everything she writes ever??

Yeah I am on high alert.
It's really sad as I love him but since then always on high alert waiting to see if he hurts me again and almost expecting it now. No way to live but pathetic as it sounds I love him so won't leave but it will be over if any other indiscretions in the future as he knows how bad I was. Actually he doesn't know as I was terrible. In a very dark place as lots of things said by him that wiped out my self esteem. He isn't the person I thought he was. His morals aren't as good as I thought. He has had a roving eye previous one time at a party when we were engaged and he left me sitting on my own and chatted up my best mate, one time in a nightclub where he let another lady hold his thigh near his knee when I was sitting next to him, one time he went to cinema with another women but pretended it was a work colleague never knew who it was and never investigated as our children young and couldn't face it and this meal but he was also in two different areas of where he said he was around time of this meal on other days. Nothing suspicious for few years but I don't think he is not going to do something if he got opportunity. Sad when I write it down.

And what has he done to make up for all of that shit? Has he helped you to feel secure? Or are you told to ‘just get over it?’

He's done a lot but it does destroy your self worth

Is this a UK thing?

I have never sent, nor received a message with kisses at the end, unless it's to my DC or my mum. Is it 😘 emoji or the xxx that you mean?

I wouldn't know how to take that from a colleague tbh.

It's definitely not a new form of punctuation everywhere.

I think you need therapy to be honest OP. The kisses aren’t an issue here.

But I am shocked at people saying they wouldn’t text a male colleague?! How is this even a thing? I don’t understand. My DH has female best friends. I have a male best friend and very good male friends. No issues with texting or xx on a message. And 3 isn’t an issue either.

Way to rebuild it is to dump the guy.

You don't trust him, it's a soul-destroying way to live.

Why do you think I need therapy

I text male work colleagues just not with three kisses

Such a rude and pointless comment to make. 'You sound young!'

Why post that?! It's just so snarky! You speak like it's a flaw or something to be 'young.'

@roseyn91 YANBU to be miffed. That's your right. Chances are it's innocent, but keep an eye on the situation.

@LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway "Why post that?! It's just so snarky! You speak like it's a flaw or something to be 'young.'"

Because in the absence of any context giving reasons why a mature adult would be asking strangers on the internet about the meaning of 3 kisses at the end of a text, it sounds like the sort of thing teenagers make drama over.

Oh get off your high horse @Elektra1 🙄

I agree you need therapy, maybe even couples therapy, to rebuild some trust, some self esteem, open up communication etc.

Not a high horse, just an observation.

This is funny because my partner sends female friends "kisses" but doesn't send me any because he says it's a "friend thing" and he would find it weird sending them to me 😂 mind you, he has his "funny ways" you could say. He often sends me hearts instead.

Because you’re still struggling from the threatened break up understandably, and it’s having a HUGE effect on you.

Pretty much all women seem to put an X on the end of message

I would make sure I didn't put a kiss on texts to a male colleague never mind three

I wouldn’t do it either. Kisses are for my family and close female friends. Anyone else and it would seem insincere to other females, unprofessional to work colleagues, and misleading to men who aren’t family. By default once after I send some info over to a guy I was doing a project with, I sent a kiss, and was kicking myself cringing. The message he sent back had three kisses on it. I sent the next to the point no kisses. The next day I get a load of more it intimate messages and a request for a date. I had to tell him kindly that I’m very sorry but I didn’t mean to send the kiss, I just did it by default like I was talking to family, it was so awkward. People read into kisses, and even if you’re someone who sends them in every text, some people won’t get that and will think there’s more to it. So yeah it weird, but some people send kisses to everyone and it doesn’t mean anything, mainly women I might add. It’s if he sent kisses back I’d be more concerned, if that’s not his usual texting style

My husbands workplace all use hearts and kisses and flowers etc on their messages and they are mainly all young men in their 20s! So it doesnt necessarily mean anything.

Maybe I am too old, but ending a text with kisses or that heart face emoji wouldn't ever cross my mind or that of my colleagues (some of whom are early 20s). I sometimes receive messages from my bosses/colleagues with a smiley face - never kisses (that would be odd and a tad creepy!) 🤔

It depends. If it were from me, you should assume someone has taken over my keyboard, unless you know me very well socially. Even the guy I'm sleeping with doesn't routinely get xxx - though it happens enough that autocorrect will offer it as a suggestion.

But I've had female colleagues end informal mails/texts/IMs with or xx. No men. My current colleagues have a habit of responding to messages like, FYI - finished that ticket as discussed with ❤️ where I would probably expect 👍 or actual words like OK, great, or thanks for telling me. Just seems to be the culture here.

A younger colleague at my previous work place said thank you in response to me IMing her to say I'd signed off something she submitted. She added 😘 💕 🫂, which I found a bit confusing- it's a workplace! I did wonder if I should have given feedback about professionalism, but I did nothing in the end, just wondered why she thought it appropriate in the workplace.

So, it could be personal style, it could be a slip-up, or it could be something to worry about - and if there's been mentionitis as well, I would at least be on alert.

I agree sometime ending a text with just one x is okay but xxx is not appropriate, I'd do that to someone I am attracted to , but one x is just being polite and not sounding rude . That woman has bad intentions beware .

Yes, this 👏