Long time poster on here but name changed for obvious reasons. I wondered If anyone has been in a similar situation and can help me work out how to talk some sense into my sister! I've recently found out that she's been having a full blown affair with a married man since February this year. Now my sister has always , until now, seemed to have her act together but this year she has completely changed and it all coincides with this man coming into her life. Apparently they met online at a time when she was going through her own difficult separation and he told her all the usual spiel- dead marriage, roommate situation blah blah blah.
She Is completely convinced that she and this man are in love with each other and that he is separating from his wife as soon as he has 'figured out housing ' 🙄 as neither of them can afford their mortgage alone despite apparently both being on good salaries. I decided to conduct some research of my own , and turns out this man and his wife have been together over 20 years and (seemingly) happily married for 11 years with 2 children ! In fact the wife posted a photo of the two of them not that long ago, and recently 'love hearted' his profile picture so can't imagine they are that unhappy! My sister also admitted the MM and his wife have been on a couple of family holidays together since the affair started so I'm of the opinion that the wife has no idea of this 'unhappy' situation.
The problem is my sister is quite naive and her self esteem has taken a nose dive in recent years, and I think this guy has completely love bombed her so she's not seeing sense at all no matter how many red flags I point out or what I say to her . This man has completely wooed her , taken her away on 'work ' trips ,even abroad (he's in the sales industry and works away a lot both in the uk and overseas which is I imagine how he gets away with his cheating 🙄) . He's said all manner of awful things about his wife to her which I can't imagine could be true, and says that as the wife is older than him and has put on weight he no longer fancies her- what a prince amongst men !!
What can I do to help my sister see sense ? She is going to waste years of her life waiting for this man and I can already see the effect that this is having on her mental health. The worst thing is this man lives in hours away from us near Manchester, and she is even thinking of moving closer to there so she can be with this man, which is never even going to happen!
I don't want to give up on my sister, but I feel like she is completely lost to this situation and don't know how to help her.