Would you include a one night stand in your body count, if you wouldn't why not

[PerkyKoala]

So I recently hooked up with a friend, it ended up being a one night stand despite us having been flirting for months. We had worked together at the same job which I had left before we hooked up.
Whilst we ended on okay terms and said we were still friends, I recently found out from a mutual friend that during discussion about body counts, the guy said that he ‘doesnt include people that he’s slept with from ‘our place of work’ as they dont count’. my friend knows we hooked up so was quite shocked that he had said this as she knew this included me
Whilst a part of me thinks he said this to avoid any futher questions about who he’d gotten with from work, another part of me thinks he said because he genuinely doesn't include our hook up as having slept with me or thinks its worth including.
I personally would include it in mine, I would name any names, but he would be an additional number, and so do feel a bit hurt that he didn't appear to think the same.
just wondered what peoples thoughts are on this, is not including a one night stand in your body count normal?

Even when I was in my twenties I never discussed who I had even kissed let alone slept with. Why is there any need to share?

It really isn’t anyone else’s business and honestly even thinking about the 1/15/100 people your partner has slept with before is totally pointless. I had a boyfriend ask me this about 20 years ago when I was a teenager and I told him it was none of his business then - honestly life is much better if this just isn’t a topic of conversation.

If you're keeping count of the number of people you've had sex with, then surely this includes everyone, whether it was a quick knee trembler behind the pub or someone you were in a two year relationship with.

I don't have a body count because I've never murdered anyone.

Body count is a term particularly juvenile 20somethings use, in my experience. Everyone involved should grow up.

Honestly this is so stupid, firstly you don't even have to ask this or answer and if you decided to you or the person asked can just lie about it can't they?

Ridiculous.

Unfortunately ‘body count’ is something a lot of people seem to see as very important these days.
Esp the younger generation (yes I’m old)

@PerkyKoala personally I’d would take a ONS in my count.
It sounds like your friend only counts relationships (even if short).

I wouldn’t tie myself in knots around it. Just, if the subject comes up with someone else, clarify what they mean. And WHY they are interested in that as it could open a huge can of worms.

Hopefully this will cease to matter to you at some point. Never heard of body count, but I'm 50 something.

I find his declaration ridiculous.

If he had sex with someone, he had sex with them.

Him cordoning off section people he had sex with based on where he met them or hoe many times of whatever random parameter is meaningless and rather idiotic.

I don't know why you're upset he's not including you ... He either, as you said, wanted to shut the topic down, or he's a weird dickhead who illogically excludes people from his count; which makes no sense. In which case, roll your eyes and move on.

Hopefully he wasn't a crap shag.

Onward and upward.

Go and do something or learn to do something nice and don't waste you time dwelling on things like this ...you do realise most people are wankers, right?

"Body count" ick.

Bodycount is a stupid concept at the best of times, it's especially stupid if you don't count properly!

It's an interesting question though. Depending on how I feel, mine doubles. I sometimes but not always include consensual sex with a man who raped me, and sometimes but not always non penetrative sex.

Of course one night stands. It's about sex not relationships.

Do hate that phrase though.

This is incredibly immature.

Nobody, other than me, knows who many people I have slept with.

Why? Because it's nobody's business.

Ah, MN at its finest.

Most posts on the thread are attacking the OP and/or judging her use of language and lifestyle choices. Or lecturing.

If I counted, I would count every person I've had penetrative sex with. I think it's normal to do so. There is one man I had oral with, but didn't fuck, so he wouldn't be in my count.

Some people wouldn't include ONS in their count for their own reasons. I think they're wrong.

Edit: I'm sorry to hear about your experience @DoloresHargreeves I think it's an interesting point you raise about consent.

Body count is a very normal term for Gen Z/Millennials to describe how many people you've slept with. Not sure why people are getting their knickers in a twist over it.

I'm also amazed at the number of people that think the number of people you've slept with is never talked about. Most friends, most partners - it's a sensible question

For the purpose of your actual question OP - yes, 1 night stands count. Every person you've had PIV sex with counts * So knobhead co-worker is wrong

• this is who people often do everything but PIV - then it doesn't count!

I don’t think there’s anything weird about knowing how many people you’ve slept with.
I also don’t think necessarily that sharing this info with friends or partners is all about “judging” each other. Sometimes it can just be fun. I was on a night out with work friends over summer, ranging in age from 28-55 and there was some fun drunken sex chat and most people shared how many they’ve slept with. No one judged, it was just innocent fun.

One of the many reasons why a ONS is so often a disgusting mistake. It should be quick maths for both sexes, otherwise someone will regret someone.

Could you add a separate column on your spreadsheet for 'One Night Stands'?

That way you can easily include or exclude as you wish.

One assumes that Dogging already has it's own section?

If a fella is fortunate enough to be anywhere near me in that sense, then he better be counting me- one night stand or not.

I keep track of everyone who's had contact with my genitalia in a sexual way, for my own enjoyment- great memories. Particularly as for me, if I'd never had any ONSs, I'd still be having not very enjoyable sex.

I've seen body count used on twitter by misogynist men who look barely old enough to work, usually saying a count over 3 or whatever makes a woman worthless and tbh I just laugh. They should be so lucky.

Funnily enough today I tried to count how many men I’d slept with just out of curiosity. Definitely think I’ve missed a couple, but definitely included my one night stands.

Would tell anyone who asked to fuck off though.

Don’t be daft.

It doesn’t really matter what other people count or don’t count. Just feel blessed in your life this is all you have to write about 🤦‍♀️

Body count is a shit phrase and sounds like you're talking about dead bodies but if you want to put it like that why would some count and not others?