"No siblings this time sadly"... on a kids party invite is that ever ok!?

[Magicshroom]

Is this ever ok NOT to invite siblings to kids party??

I think not ok!!!?

Its very sensible and reasonable of the host to set it out so clearly

If invited, fine.
But I never invited siblings of friends to my kids parties.
I tended to be booking soft play centre or paint balling when older and no way could I have afforded more than the few friends I explicitly invited.

Demure?! PMSL!

Exclusively bf babe in arms, fine, otherwise, no, I'd be very annoyed, it's not a childcare situation. I see the OP says devil's advocate, but it's seemingly a mumsnet hot topic!

Why would you assume siblings are automatically invited to a party 🤯

It's absolutely OK!

It's very entitled to expect siblings to be able to go too..Parents don't have endless pots of money to pay for all the invited child's siblings too and quite frankly why should they???
Its ridiculous to expect siblings to be able to go.

Siblings should not be included as the norm

the exception being if they’re onto the invite

Of course it’s ok!! The birthday “person”
doesn’t want a load of randoms at their party and neither should their parents have to
cater for it! It’s taking the piss to assume your other kids are wanted there!

Absolutely ok and definitely not ok to bring siblings to a birthday party unless the host has agreed.
I remember one birthday party I did for DS1 and the invited child turned up along with his sister and sister's friend. It was a treasure hunt which the sibling decided to take part in, taking the 'treasure' and party bag meaning an invited child went without until I swooped in and addressed the issue.

I think the norm would be to not include siblings because of cost, number of children and the fact that having children from various ages would be problematic as not everyone could do or would enjoy the activities. It's best to keep it to a group of kids of a same age who know each other.

What annoys me the most is children who turn up with not only a sibling but both parents, why can’t one parent stay home with the non invited sibling

Of course it is.

No kids, here, but I can totally understand why people wouldn’t include siblings of their children’s friends. It’s a party, not an open crèche!

Of course it’s ok- we have 5 kids. I can’t expect a host to accommodate them all. Can you imagine the impact on cost- particularly for things like softplay parties.

Lol of course it’s ok.

When I was younger (from 8 onwards was when it started to get an issue) my best friend’s little sister who was about 4-5 years younger than her wanted to come along everywhere with us and the DP’s of course encouraged it including to my birthday parties. Actually the younger sister wasn’t so bad but I didn’t have a relationship with her, but her older sister of course I did. Back in those days parties were rarely held in external centres, a friend had a party in a community centre and a couple of friends had them in the new McDonalds.

Why would you invite siblings?

Personally I think people 'offended' by the idea of siblings are nuts and privileged but it doesn't swing the other way either. In the real world people accept sibling may also have to attend however they are not part of the party. This means don't expect them to be paid for, feed or given party bags but of course they can come if needed.

I have never yet encountered a party where that would be impossible, most parties are public soft play where you just pay the child in as you would as a member of the public or hired hall parties.

Obviously you couldn't send a sibling to say a sleepover party etc... but you wouldn't be there either (so sibling would be with you) and no one has sleepover/house parties these days.

It's definitely ok not to invite siblings and completely up to the hosts. There are certain circumstances where children are very young and can't be left at the party but even then there's no entitlement to assume siblings are invited.

Grumpy alert - I hate reverses. Stand by what you think, don't play silly buggers with strangers

no- you shouldn't be expected to include siblings - how ridiculous.

I once hosted a freestyle garden party for my DD in a large shared communal garden, and said siblings were welcome. I didn’t realise both sets of parents would also stay (age 5+) so it ended up feeling like a bloody wedding!! Never again. I think the ‘no siblings’ note on the invite is very sensible, as is writing drop off only

@Magicshroom you appear to be very entitled!!! no siblings is the norm!! people only invite the number that they can accomodate at the venue be it their home or elsewhere!!!

my kids are 11 and 9 and we've been to dozens of birthday parties. I am struggling to think of any where siblings specifically were invited tbh. Usually they have been some kind of activity where the price is per person. So def not sibling friendly!

Occasionally some villague hall affair where it doesn't really cost extra - in this scenaio I think some siblings would generally come along, even if not specifically invited.

Nice one! Yeah I'm agreeing with everyone else here on the 'of course it's okay'