"No siblings this time sadly"... on a kids party invite is that ever ok!?

[Magicshroom]

Is this ever ok NOT to invite siblings to kids party??

I think not ok!!!?

I've only ever had kids' siblings at parties when it's been younger kids who can't be left so the parents are there anyway and they've always paid for their 'extra' child e.g. soft play.

It's a shame someone has had to spell it out, but needs must if they've had problems in the past with this.

It was amazing when people did offer to include siblings - a few hours of adult time - but it's 100% OK not to do this.

Yes it's fine and good to make it very clear.

Personally im fine with very young siblings coming to my kids parties but I take more issue when the whole family comes along!!! Especially teen siblings who don't even want to be there.

I dont expect siblings to muscle in on partys 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why on earth would you take siblings?

Surely that would be taking the wee wee?

Of course it’s ok. You invite the child, not the sibling group.

Of course it’s bloody ok! Invite and cater for 20kids, everyone brings 2 siblings and that’s 60! You are not special sorry

Absolutely fine!

I have 5 kids. I usually send the invited child in first and then when I'm absolutely sure the birthday child's parents are distracted I yell, 'Go! Go! Go!' to the others while I leg it in the opposite direction. Then, when I've enjoyed my free childcare, I roll up late and help myself to 5 party bags and some leftovers and leave without thanking the birthday child's parents. Birthday present? No way!

Of course it’s ok.

Although weirdly I went to a party at the weekend which said this on the invite and there were loads of siblings there 🤷‍♀️ Not sure if the birthday child’s parents made exceptions for particular children or if some people just ignored the invite.

Edited to add - just read OP’s update! OP are you the host from the party I went to at the weekend where lots of unexpected siblings turned up?!

I thought it was the norm not to invite siblings. I have never heard of a birthday party with all siblings were invited? Maybe when I was growing up it was because of super large families around me but inviting siblings could easily mean a party size increase by x3 or more.

So what? This is a reverse?

That's not very demure or mindful.

I think it's absolutely fine.
Hosts should not expect everyone to accept, and people should not expect all their kids to go along.

I’ve never invited siblings nor have I assumed my dc’s siblings were invited. Also been to lots of parties where only 1 twin of 2 was invited

@Teenyweenytinytrees
That approach is far more bold, and rather more amazing than what I had in mind, which was along the lines of Gandalf sneakily changing the party size as he told a story to Beorn.

Why not just post “no siblings on a kids party I often - that’s always ok isn’t it?” You’d have for exactly the same answers.

100% OK. Why wouldn't it be?

I was considering the point of view of the parents who are sending out the invitations and the cost implications.

This.

I can't believe entitled parents expecting siblings to be included has become a thing now. We never had this problem when my children were small.

Agreed.

You could have a situation where a parent organises to accommodate a class plus a few extra, but finishes up with double the amount of children expected. It's not feasible.

you were definitely on the right side of this ;)

the sibling thing only ever happened once with me - local irritating BBC personality rang up to accept invite for eldest child and did seem to assume that the other 2 were invited too - DH acted daft and said he really didn't think so .... Funny but I got some negs from friends of hers because "she was having such a hard time... "

Another who agrees with this.

I mean, I wouldn't have put 'sadly' on it, but it is more shocking that it has got to the stage where so many people think they can bring uncle Tom Cobley and all to something just because one person has been invited.

No thank you to gate crashing siblings🤔

I remember at dd’s 5th birthday party, it was a soft play at the local gym, where you hire the hall out. 20 max capacity. Ended up with 28 children and the gym staff were not happy. I was mortified and explained 5 parents had turned up with siblings who were not invited. I had to tell the parents the children weren’t allowed on the soft play and that there wasn’t enough food for them either. Regardless, the children kept playing and ran into the party food room and started grabbing food. I was early pg with dc3 and feeling horrendous to boot. 😭

Some people have no manners 😡