He's upset that I'm dating others in the open relationship he wanted?

[lovelee97]

Hi! I made an account here looking for relationship advice because I'm not sure what to do about this current dating situation I'm in.

I've been dating someone for about 2 months (we met on a dating site) and off the bat he told me that he's polyamorous and is in an open relationship with his wife, and they have two kids together. He said he wasn't looking for anything serious and wanted something casual (no strings attached) and I was fine with it because I'm focusing on my career and doing my PhD.

So everything was going well and I assumed since he is open with his wife and wanted something casual that I could date other guys. About a week ago I started dating someone else and he got upset and asked me what changed because we were seeing each other a lot and I told him I'm dating someone else. He got even more upset and I told him well we're not committed or exclusive and plus he's married so I wasn't sure what was happening.

He says that now he wants me to make him the priority? I'm so confused because he doesn't want anything serious. I like him so how I move forward with this?

Exactly. Affairs destroy families. Anyone that is ok with that is a selfish lowlife.

Why would she invite that drama. His marriage is not her problem

I hope you laughed in his face and took the time to point out his massive hypocrisy.

He wants me to make him my priority All the LOLs in the whole world, ever. Just No 🤣, and tell him the new guy pissed himself laughing when you told him.
He doesn’t get to be jealous, make demands on your time, or comment on what you do when isn’t there. The fact of the wife obviously doesn’t give you the ick… but this shit definitely should.

It's not her problem I agree, but she seems to carry some sort of guilt as she mentioned the fact he's married, hence the reason I suggested calling the wife and making sure there's no issues with her.

I don’t think she’s feeling guilty as she’s shagging him knowing he has a wife, and she surely knows that “we have an open relationship” is in the players handbook next to “my wife doesn’t understand me”, and “we haven’t slept together in a decade”, and “we mainly live separate lives”, and “we are only putting an act on of being together for the children”

Theres another post on here that you should read OP, mt bet is that the husband would be just as shocked at his wife having other relationships. What he means by “open relationship ” is “I’ve got loads of bitches to shag”

Read this OP

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5157587-am-i-acting-in-retaliation?page=14&reply=138320765