Hi all,
Looking to hear some experiences on this matter if anyone would be kind enough to share.
Had a rough time, I’m 34, was due to be married to a man I loved dearly but realised his aggression and temper towards me were a bad indication for the future given he demanded children as soon as we were married. Ultimately I called it off.
Anyway, a few months back, I bumped into an old colleague at the train station. Lovely man. He’s 39 and fairly recently divorced as his partner is Colombian and decided she wanted to go back home which wasn’t part of their plan.
He is a lovely, genuine and kind man, with a good work ethic, works in the same industry as me and seems to have himself well put together. He’s mentioned that he liked me when we worked together almost 13 years ago and I am getting the impression he is keen to get to know me more.
My issue is, I don’t think I immediately ‘fancy’ him, I don’t get the butterflies and can’t imagine anything intimate with him at this stage. I am however, sure that he is a lovely, sensitive and caring man, and I really value that in him.
I guess I am doubting my own judgement now, as my previous relationships have been wonderful highs but horrid lows. I had one steady one before, but I got bored! So I’m worried about my own habits in choosing partners, given I had a tumultuous childhood.
For those happily with someone, were you immediately physically attracted to them, or did this come later for some of you?
I don’t want to waste his time, but I also would love to explore the idea as we are very compatible.
thank you xx