'Launching' the relationship with OW

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STBXH has 'launched' his relationship with OW. We work in the same sector and they attended an industry event as a public couple. I have them both muted on LinkedIn, X, Bluesky etc but it's a small world and bloody everyone was there and my feeds have thrown up multiple comments addressed to them about how happy they both looked. I know I should have avoided all news of the event but I suppose a masochistic streak made me look.

I just don't understand. The people commenting know me. They know that he was living with me and our children less than a month ago. How can they celebrate a relationship which has been borne of so much pain and betrayal? How does an OW take any joy at all in her relationship when it was founded in the lies he told me for months and months?

Feeling very sad tonight.

@WickedStepmotherWasJustMisunderstood I think the fact that she's still friends with him on SM means that it probably ok for me to be too. In any case I was friends with him for years (worked together) prior to him meeting my friend

Brutal but utterly brilliant.

Ultimate takedown.

I salute you!

I guess because they don’t care how it affects you. Also some women want what they know is not theirs to have then get bored quickly once they get it. It’s awful for you but you deserve so much better than that & how you have been treated. Head up you did nothing wrong and you are worth so much more. It gets better believe me.

Some women are genuinely addicted to having something someone has got. I had a friend who lived in a cycle of this ( and not just men actually, clothes and everything).

She’d be on a high when she was in pursuit of her victim, then we were all picking her up off the floor when he inevitably succumbed to the next flattering pursuer. Think weeks in bed crying with smeared mascara. She’d be a mess. Then she’d crawl out again, catch a whiff of a “taken” challenge like a dog getting the scent on a hunt and she’d be off again. Full of life, getting her hair done, nails done, new outfits, throwing money at it because inevitably he had enough for this to be “an investment.”

I gave up on her when she lured a married man with a young family. I just couldn’t nurse her through that without feeling revolted by her.