Inheritance

[DustyLee123]

How would you feel if DH of a long marriage said that his inheritance was none of your business?

Is it possible the OP’s DH is grieving and found the question about money insensitive at that particular moment?

That is not true at all.

dh and I are a team, and have been for nearly 30 years but his inheritance is a gift from his parents to him. It’s in his own savings account that he opened when he received his inheritance ( which I suggested). Money in our house is all family money but I see this as his money.

Tbh dh doesn’t want to spend his inheritance as he said it feels wrong benefitting from his parents death so it’s all still sat in his bank account.

If you BOTH decided it's his money, then it was a team decision.

There are so many variables. If the family needs the money or not, whose decision it is, what the money is used for, etc. I was married for over 15 years and spent all that time trying to convince myself we were a team. But we never were, and accepting that made everything easier.

I’d have left him as soon as he refused to take any sick days off for the kids. He really believes he’s the big man doesn’t he. YOUR kids, MY money.

I wonder if he is trying to ring fence it to protect it in case you separate?

in my view, we would share any inheritance, me and dh. It would be joint money.

you dh is selfish.