Tell the new gf that my ex is a conman?

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My ex fiancé cheated on me. I only found out afterwards when he’d got his new gf (he’d cheated on me with) pregnant. He tortured me for years, on again off again. Never letting me move on. Telling me he didn’t want any more children. She knows nothing about me, and there was no way I could track her down.

His mum refused to tell her, I guess so she’s still have access to the baby.

I also found out he’s been pretending to be a pilot, and lied to loads of companies he was contracting for. They’ve now investigated and terminated him. There’s even a small chance he’s done something criminal in signing off the airworthiness of a lot of planes.

I found out she’s pregnant again and is selling her house to buy a place with him. I don’t know how he’s going to afford it given he’s now a laughing stock in the aerospace sector.

I was today given her phone number.

Should I tell her?

Absolutely not. Nothing to do with you.

Agree.

Never letting me move on

He's letting you now. So move on.

No because she won’t listen to you. Remember he is charming and a professional liar, he will be able to explain away whatever you say.

Thats if she even bothers to tell him.

Absolutely not. Nothing to do with you.

Apologies for double post - dodgy connection.

Nope. Let her find out for herself.

She probably wouldn't believe you.
Also why would you want to do anything that would result in him coming back into your life angry and likely to start torturing you again?

Do you have any newspaper articles as proof? If so then yes - do it - if not leave well alone.

I'd tell her.
He sounds like that awful Scottish fraudster, Malcolm Webster.

I wouldn't bother with his new partner. If there's a chance that what you say about him signing off potentially unsafe planes is true, then I would contact relevant authorities about that.

Yes you should.

No. It's very unlikely she will believe you. You don't have children with him, you aren't married to him and have no property with him. Count your blessings, that you have no ties to him, and move on. Eventually, she will find out herself what he's like.

it seems like you better leave it? Let her decide for herself....he might change for her or at least pull another set of strings and conduct himself in a better way

who knows which way it might go. I am only sorry you believed him and never left and found sooner a man who wanted kids with you

He will have already warned her about you, you calling and telling her the truth will just feed what she believes to be true.

He may well blame you for him getting sacked, his 'psycho ex' making calls to destroy his life is a great story, so you may well be doing him a favour if you do.

Yes I have lots of proof from third parties

What about his fake career as a pilot?

Only when I found out and confronted him last year.
I have to admit I want him to suffer.
Should I tell her without revealong who I am?

Percy Topliss, Cumbrian con man extraordinary.

I actually think I would warn her before she gives up her financial independence & ends up potentially homeless with 2 (innocent) children.
Hopefully the airworthiness issue is already being dealt with by the organisation's involved - that is horrendous!

Sounds like him. He'd love to be compared to a rogue.
Thinks he's Frank Abagnale clearly.

You wanted to get away. Now you can. Dragging yourself back in just to “make him suffer” is madness

if you really want to help her, do it, but all you’ve talked about is hurting him…

Yes, I would. It's the right thing to do, especially so given children are involved. She may not believe you - that is her choice - totally understandable if she chooses not to; men can be very persuasive. The illusion of true love and a man adoring you can be so tempting.

But, for me this is an issue about giving a woman the choice to decide which way her life goes right now given she is with a con artist.

Please tell her!

And OP, I am sorry he was such a shit to you 💐💐