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6 year old son won't give me any space

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19891stchapter · 31/07/2024 07:09

I'm not really moaning. My sons funny and happy go lucky. But he's 24/7 at me and I'm struggling to get stuff done. He wakes up at the crack of dawn. This morning I tip toed through at 6am made a coffee and by 6.07 he was sat next to me. Wanted his breakfast. Not a problem may I add, although I had not even sipped my drink and wanted 10 minutes. I then went out at 6.50 to peg the washing out. He kept talking to me. I was whispering to him to be quiet as its early. He then followed me in and began asking if he could have a shower which I don't mind but he knows I've already said if he wants to meet our friends later he needs to let mummy have a shower and put the washing away that I could not do last night because he refused to sleep until 9.45 because of the heat, but insisted on sitting with Me until I caved and went to lay down with him. Yesterday all day he was at my feet wanting me.
He has a 9 year old sister and sometimes she amuses him and its not so bad.

Its not a moaning post. Its more a is this standard for 6 year old boys? I try and be firm and tell him sometimes that I need him to go play for half an hour or watch tele and let me be in My bedroom so I can sort the washing. But he comes and sits on the bed and just won't accept I want him to go in the other room.

Having a half hour quiet time first thing and before bed is the difference between me feeling ready for the day or smothered. All I wanted to do last night was go in the garden after they were in bed and have one cider as its my night off work (back tomorrow) and by the time he gave in I wasn't able to. Then as top of the post stated he was up 7 minutes after me.

What are your 6 year old like? I actually love how affectionate he is and really hope I don't look horrible in this post. He won't even let me get dressed alone.

OP posts:
Blueroses99 · 31/07/2024 18:17

Haven’t RTFT, only the OPs posts.

“Amuse yourself” doesn’t work for us, it needs to be a specific task - in my bedroom - find the socks in the clean laundry basket, in the kitchen - count the forks in the drawer/ potatoes /whatever. Might be more game/toy oriented depending on what’s around.

Also we use timers on Alexa or phones so 10 minutes means 10 minutes and there’s no point in asking if it’s 10 minutes yet…

DeccaM · 31/07/2024 19:57

I would not dream of letting my kids out.

Why ever not? It's good for children to play independently. It helps them develop important skills. Of course, I don't mean letting them run wild in busy traffic. But why can't your children play outside together?

Gymmum82 · 31/07/2024 22:04

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 31/07/2024 15:53

Mine wasn’t struggling at that age in any way. Seemed a normal happy child.

Then it all kicked off in secondary ( as it does) and we ended up with 18 months out of school and an EHCP. For a child that seemed fine.

My kid isn’t your kid

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