Recently at a family gathering my sibling and I were reminiscing with cousins about our parents, all of whom are dead.
Cousins spoke about several conversations they'd had over the years with their mum in which their mum said she suspected her husband, cousins' father had had an affair with our mum and me and my sibling were a result of this, which makes us half siblings. All relayed very nonchalantly.
They had no real proof of this other than suspicions/feelings by their mum and suggestive comments made from someone else.
My sibling and I were totally floored by this as we never had any reason to doubt who our father was.
I asked if they or their other sibling would be willing to take a dna test to find out and they both said, 'Ah no, what's the point after all these years when they're all dead'.
I have so many questions going through my head and don't know what to do with this information.
We have two older siblings who are quite elderly with health problems and I don't feel I want to destroy their happiness if this is true and also I imagine it will cause a big family rift whether it's true or not.
Feeling like my whole identity could be a lie.