Where can I find a husband?

[Topsysmum24]

I've been a single parent since I was pregnant and my child is 12 now! I've had a few casual relationships during that time but nothing serious because I haven't had the time to invest in a relationship.

It's felt like I've been in survival mode these past 12 years, trying to get by, trying to raise my child, trying to pay off debts, trying to improve my education, trying get a career established. Never any money for hobbies, travel, or much socialising.

As a result of the above, I don't have many friends. The friends I do have are married and only really know other married people so there is no one they can set me up with (I've asked).

I'm now in my mid 30s. I have a masters degree and I'm making progress in my profession. I'm finally doing ok! I went to a trendy fitness class today, it felt so good to do something fun for myself.

Now I have more time and less stress in my life, I'm ready to meet someone. I'd like to expand my social circle too but I kinda know how to do that.

But where can I meet someone for a relationship? Where do people meet nowadays? I'm on Bumble but most of the guys on there seem pretty uninspiring to say the least!

I'm looking for my equal. I want the usual things like kindness, love, genuineness. I want someone who is ambitious and enjoys the work they do. I don't want a rich man to sponge off but neither do I want a poor man - I'm bored of struggling financially, I want an easier life. I'm doing well creating that for myself, I want a man to build that with me. I want someone I feel physically attracted to, someone who is good fun and who can have a laugh.

I want something serious, I don't want to mess about. I want the loving husband, nice house, dog, maybe even another baby. I want what everyone else (seemingly!) has.

Where can I find what I'm looking for? Where do attractive, single men in their 30s hang out?

I'm not sporty at all! Things I'm interested in seem to be more female dominated so I'm unlikely to meet a man in a hobby group. My career is (again!) female dominated. I've just started a new job and there's only two men in the whole building!

@shuggles Ideally people know exactly why they're on an app or dating site, But believe me, sometimes people don't know what they want. Complicates dating immeasurably.

Hi
I counted 36 “I” s in your thread.
Can suggest you reframe the way you look at this issue, and try not be so I I want want want.
something like
“I can bring happiness to a great man who I have not met yet. He will be loved nurtured and cherished by me. When we meet I will show by my actions how caring and warm I am, and won’t question his credentials about what he can do for me.”
Worth thinking about

^ This.

It is how we did it in the 1970's and 1980's. There were no dating sites - just The Guardian Soulmates mainly for divorced ladies in their 40's. Personal physical contact.

Passing in the high street on the way to work.
On the bus.
In the park.
In the pub.
In the launderette.
By the fruit and veg stall in the supermarket.
On a Sunday afternoon by the pier.

You looked. You looked again. They looked again. Then someone spoke. That's how we did it and that's how I would do it again.

There’s a reason she can’t find one Graham, can you guess what it is? Lol