Where can I find a husband?

[Topsysmum24]

I've been a single parent since I was pregnant and my child is 12 now! I've had a few casual relationships during that time but nothing serious because I haven't had the time to invest in a relationship.

It's felt like I've been in survival mode these past 12 years, trying to get by, trying to raise my child, trying to pay off debts, trying to improve my education, trying get a career established. Never any money for hobbies, travel, or much socialising.

As a result of the above, I don't have many friends. The friends I do have are married and only really know other married people so there is no one they can set me up with (I've asked).

I'm now in my mid 30s. I have a masters degree and I'm making progress in my profession. I'm finally doing ok! I went to a trendy fitness class today, it felt so good to do something fun for myself.

Now I have more time and less stress in my life, I'm ready to meet someone. I'd like to expand my social circle too but I kinda know how to do that.

But where can I meet someone for a relationship? Where do people meet nowadays? I'm on Bumble but most of the guys on there seem pretty uninspiring to say the least!

I'm looking for my equal. I want the usual things like kindness, love, genuineness. I want someone who is ambitious and enjoys the work they do. I don't want a rich man to sponge off but neither do I want a poor man - I'm bored of struggling financially, I want an easier life. I'm doing well creating that for myself, I want a man to build that with me. I want someone I feel physically attracted to, someone who is good fun and who can have a laugh.

I want something serious, I don't want to mess about. I want the loving husband, nice house, dog, maybe even another baby. I want what everyone else (seemingly!) has.

Where can I find what I'm looking for? Where do attractive, single men in their 30s hang out?

I'm not sporty at all! Things I'm interested in seem to be more female dominated so I'm unlikely to meet a man in a hobby group. My career is (again!) female dominated. I've just started a new job and there's only two men in the whole building!

What rubbish. Ok, had someone had 1000 previous partners or something that changes things I guess but I couldn’t care less how many partners someone has had. And I would never be put off my a girl who has a degree because she may have slept around (more rubbish imo). And if any guy thinks that she had a lucky escape.

How about.......

Wanted, man with house suitable for raising a family in.

Please send picture of house.

But good luck with your search

This ! The supermarket on Sunday morning would be my hunting ground, you can tell who is single by the contents of their trolley.

What do you and your future husband like to do together in your free time?

Go do that.

Hahahahahahahaha. This person has got to be trolling!!

Oh incels. You lot always make me laugh.

You have all these elaborate theories about women, and why they don't want you, but you never realise that it's just because you're thick as mince.

Bird watching? I want a sexy young man, not Jacob Rees-Mogg! Park Run might be something I can do, thanks
Give it a go there could be a fit environmentalist/ biologist giving a talk, leading the walk - no harm in checking it out!

And boys don’t sleep around and get in debt??

Depends. If that mate was 20 years ago fine. Last month probably not due to screwing a friendship.

and no, if she had 50 partners it would make no difference to how I feel.

Mate, the only thing we know for a fact is that you're a misogynist nitwit posting cobblers on Mumsnet.

Why is a 26 year old man on Mumsnet...weird

@Username59493 what you don’t seem to understand about women is that your “good career, 15 grand savings (that one DID make me snort out loud), no debt, tall, blah blah” is made utterly irrelevant by the fact that you are a misogynist twat. No career, cash in the bank or slim physique will EVER make up for that.

I met DP on Tinder just over 2 years ago - once our dc are old enough we will sell both houses and move in together

I’ve more or less given up now, 7 years after my wife buggered off with her millionaire boss. I live with our son, I ring church bells 3 times a week and go to work. I did meet a lovely platonic companion through a dating site-we still chat on the phone and meet up occasionally despite her moving away from the area.

Dating sites are full of people with unrealistic expectations, the impatience to think they’ll hit the bullseye so to speak immediately, demand that you have “no baggage” but will completely accept all theirs and usually seem to just want a bit of text exchange to repair their bruised egos and probably don’t want to go on a date.

I think a much better strategy is to massively expand your social life and keep in touch with your friends and family as much as possible. It’s possible then that you’ll meet someone indirectly who’s a friend of a friend, which is much more low risk than attempting a relationship with someone who you see every week in pursuit of your principal hobby and/or social life.

Or saying it like it is!

You're very dim.

Probably under the nearest rock.
Sorry.

I met mine online dating at 31 I'm 37 now , u unfortunately you have to go on all the bad dates I had almost given up and was really done with it gave it one last shot and met my DH

OP I could be you but a couple of years older and no kid.

I'd really love to hear more on here from recent successful dating, and which websites you used. I need a website/app big enough to have reached my 'small world' area - think the kind of place where the rumour of a Thai restaurant opening is sending the town facebook page into melt down - but 'exclusive' enough (for want of a better word) to weed out those in it to take advantage or have casual relationships.

Didn't see the incels comments before they got deleted, was he going on about his good virgin girlfriend who bakes cakes again 😆
Not sure why MN won't/can't just ban based on IP address.

@DelphiniumDandelion

Would Muddy Matches be suitable, DelphiniumDandelion?

https://www.muddymatches.co.uk/

You say you do not like sport , but have you thought a little outside the rugby, football, cricket matches?
You don't have to love it, or pretend to love it, but being around sport might bring a few more men into your sphere.
Tennis, badminton squash, polo?