Would you take a bullet for your partner?

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Was chatting to a friend who said the way she believes you can tell if you’re with the person you should be with/soulmate is if you feel like you would take a bullet for them.
I said the only people I would take a bullet for is my children, not even my parents, siblings etc who I also love.
she said that that means I don’t truly love my partner. What do you think? I don’t think you can ever unconditionally love anyone except your children

My instinctive answer is no, only for my kids. But I don't think any of us can know how we would react in the moment.

Only so i don't have to live anymore

Actually, during the 2012 Aurora theatre shooting, 3 men died while shielding their significant others from harm.

I would have to agree with OP's friend- if you love someone, then yes, you do try to shield them from harm. I am alarmed and concerned by the plethora of comments on here from people saying they would save their children, but not their spouse- as though their spouse is a lesser person and not worthy of the same love given to the rest of the family.

The first set up is just awkward if no one answers and the minutes tick by. Or worse, if you catch DP out of the corner of your eye, slowly raising his hand to point to you...

Your friend is talking nonsense. I love the bones of my partner. He has three grown up children but I have two younger children who still need looking after. If I died they’d be left without a mother. Once they are grown I might think about it then. That said, my DP would insist on taking the bullet for me because he’s amazing.

Yes in theory, now that ds is pretty much grown up and doesn't need me so much. (Also, I'm worth a ton of money dead so both dp and ds would be well set up afterwards). I'm not sure that I would count it as a measure of love though.

In practice I am pretty sure I would freeze. It takes years of training for soldiers to put themselves at risk of being shot. I wouldn't blame dp for freezing either.

Nope! I have children who need me

No

No, I wouldn’t want my children to grow up without a mother

Brilliant 😂😂😂😂

No chance. Only my children.

Imagining flashdance leg action here to insert a toe into the action

No, only for DC.

This sounds awful but everyone left behind would be worse off if I took the bullet as I’ve been the backbone of the family forever as DH has worked away all our 40 years together. Their (DC, elderlies etc) lives wouldn’t change if I refused the bullet, but it would if I took it.

Of course not.

Before I had DC I would have said yes but now I have DC no I wouldn’t. I’d take a bullet for my DC but no one else.

Genuinely hate it when people try to measure the amount someone else loves another person.

No I wouldn’t. I would for my kids. I know my kids would try and take one for the dogs. Especially my teenage son.

My dp isn’t their dad. If I died they would have no half decent parent. It would break my kids. They would be quite wealthy. But broken. We are incredibly close. I lost my mum and have my dad who is a good dad. It’s the worst thing I have been through and I wouldn’t put my kids through losing me for my dp.

My love for dp or his love for me, never comes above my kids needs. And he would never expect it to.

Is your friend 15? This is like one of those love quizzes you used to get in Company or More magazine or something.

Me too.

No! I would for the dog though.

I would take a bullet for him if I knew I would survive it, otherwise no.

I would take any bullet for my kids though, it’s a different kind of love.

Nope, our child is still very young and needs me more and that was absolutely my first thought.

I suspect it would also probably be his. Actually his real response would be to think it’s a nonsense question.

With a moments thinking about it no, I hope I wouldn't because our son needs me. He has SEN and although we both love him so much we both know it's me who knows him inside out and if he were to lose one of us as a child, realistically it's better off being dad. I know for sure, absolute certain, that my husband would agree and take a bullet for me.

I think me dying would impact our children far more. But I am living proof I don't cope with grief well after losing my mum young at 27 whilst pregnant. So I wouldn't want to live with the pain of grieving my my husband too, I know that sounds so selfish

Nope, because it'd be a stupid thing to do.

I'm far more likely to be able to overpower an attacker than DP is.

If I get shot first, then DP probably gets shot straight after. We both die.

If DP gets shot first, there's a small chance I can attack the attacker and win while she's being shot,and I can then get DP to hospital.

Crappy odds either way, but slightly better chance of survival if I try not to get shot.

(Of course,what would likely actually happen is we both freeze, and both die)

Before kids, yes.
After kids, no.