Would you take a bullet for your partner?

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Was chatting to a friend who said the way she believes you can tell if you’re with the person you should be with/soulmate is if you feel like you would take a bullet for them.
I said the only people I would take a bullet for is my children, not even my parents, siblings etc who I also love.
she said that that means I don’t truly love my partner. What do you think? I don’t think you can ever unconditionally love anyone except your children

I just asked him if he'd take one for me and he said "of course I would. I'd fight a crocodile for you. I'd fight a BEAR for you" and now he's gone off on a tangent about how he could probably win a fight against a black bear.

Now I feel bad 😆

Only for DC, no man would be worth more than my life. I'm sure my DC would be pleased to know that. Also, 'soulmate' - BS terminology that wrongly implies there's only one out of billions of people on the planet that's right for us. That she'd use that terminology and say what she has just shows how misguided and illogical she is.

I also agree with you that the only people you can love unconditionally are your dc.

For example, I absolutely love my DP but if I found out he cheated, committed an awful crime, hurt my dc, etc I would fall out of love with him (yes, I'd be heartbroken but I'd recover).

My parents and siblings - it would take a hell of a lot but certain extreme acts could make me go NC.

I can't think of a single thing my dc could do to stop me loving them - is that not what is meant by unconditional?

An extreme example but a chat with my DP while watching the Jeffrey Dharmer series comes to mind. My DP was shocked when his parents called/visited him in jail. He was even more shocked when I said I could understand and would still visit my dc if they done something as equally awful. Obviously I wouldn't excuse or agree with what they'd done but I could never fully disown them.
My DP has no dc and couldn't get his head around what I had said.

There's nobody in the world I'd standby in that way other than my dc.

Interesting question.

im not sure is the answer. In the moment probably I do love him enough and im conceited enough to think id know to throw a non life threatening part of myself in front of him 😂

Yes. Without question.

No because I wouldn't want my children to be without me.

Time for a divorce?

This complicates the question! I've always thought it meant "would you die to let the other person live" - if so, I'd only ever do this for dc.

If you're talking about taking a bullet in the arm in place of DP taking a bullet in the arm, then my answer would still be "no" - again the only person I'd do this for would be my dc.

However, if my DP (or parents/siblings) were about to die and I could take a non-fatal bullet to the arm instead then I'd think about it (I'm only joking, of course I would! 😂)

Why? Interesting logic!

No

No. But I would for my Dc.

No tbh I wouldn't because that would mean leaving the kids, I would take one for them no question

I would have, yes.

100% yes I would

No way! I'd sacrifice him and let him take the bullet for me as I'd manage better on my own than he would 🤣. Goes without saying I'd take a bullet for my kids though. I don't love my husband unconditionally, there are absolutely conditions attached - he has to be kind to me, not be unfaithful and break our trust, and generally not an arsehole. The love I have for my children is all consuming and unconditional. Totally different.

I’d only take bullets for my children! If f it came to a choice on who would look after them better as a single parent, it would be me! So no I wouldn’t take a bullet for my husband.

I agree with this. I love my daughters unconditionally. I love my husband very much but it’s not quite unconditional.
I would absolutely die to save him though because I believe, within question, that he is a better parent, a better provider and a generally better person than me.
I suppose that this means I would be saving him for my daughters, rather than for him, but I am still sure I would do it.
Funnily enough, I am fairly certain now that I would also die to save my stepdaughter. I am not sure when that became true. I have been in her life for 27 years now and have moved through caring about her, to loving her, to being as sure as I can that I would die to protect her.
I suspect I would probably have a similarly overwhelming urge to save my brother and I feel uncomfortable about the fact that I think this may not be true for my mother or sister, both of whom I do also love.

No. I would for Dd though.

No. He's no my dc father so wouldn't leave my children without a mum

outdamnedspots · Today 23:26
MrsSkylerWhite · Today 23:09
Before our children were adults, no. Now that they are, yes.

Why? Interesting logic

Because they were more vulnerable as children. My husband is now disabled so I would protect him first because they are more physically able adults.

I need to know the set up of the shooting, is it someone saying “one of you has to die, choose or I will” whilst pointing the gun at us. or is it just random shots flying around and we see one coming for out partner and, heroically, in slow motion, dive and act as a human shield?

No I wouldn't I love him but I love my children more and being here for them would be my priority. I think my husband would for me though without a second thought. I'd ask him, but he's away to bed whilst I'm waiting to go pick my teen up from a festival in 20 mins, so you know, they need me more 🤣

I'm not sure, to be honest.

I'm absolutely certain he would for me, though.

Without hesitation. I wouldn't want to continue life without DH and he would be fine without me. Despite that, I know he would be trying to take the bullet if it meant saving me. So there might be a tussle!
As with SandrenaIsMyBloodType, DH is a more capable parent than me so I know DC will always be loved and cared for.

I would not take a bullet for him, I would not leave my children for him, I love him in a different way to my children. X