No sex. Is it over?

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Have a great relationship with my husband in every area apart from sex. He’s loving, kind, supportive, funny, interesting and we are very close. Best friends.
But physically it’s not there. He has some problems with ED for as long as I’ve known him, I’ve been very patient but nothing is getting better and it’s been about 10 years of no / very bad sex.
I love him and I love our life but I’m finding myself very low because I’m missing such a big part of a relationship and I feel like I’m wasting my younger years. We tried again the other night and it was just awful, we both agreed it wasn’t working. He says he’s still very attracted to me but unfortunately i don’t feel the same as I did. I can’t see a way forward that doesn’t involve divorce. Which I really don’t think either of us want. I’d love to hear what people in my situation would do. We have no kids.

There is nothing wrong with a woman grieving for her sex life and questioning what now. She doesn't even sound like she's getting the work around your getting. To some people sex is important and it bonds them to their partner. She didn't sign up to limiting herself to being her husbands best friend at only 34.

OP I would get yourself some counselling so that you can start talking through your feelings. Once you know a bit more about where you are and where you want to go you can start having proper conversations with your husband about the way forward. I would lay off trying to have sex again until you have started to process this yourself.