The ick - how to break things off

[Nanick]

Just this weekend I've got the ick with a man I've been casually dating for the last 6 weeks. We finally got round to dtd over the weekend, but for reasons I won't go into we didn't. What a let down. He could get it up, so that wasn't the issue.

There were some other things too - poo related 😳 And I'm just not feeling it.

How do I break it off gently? Dwindle text communication so that he gets the idea? I don't want him to think this is just sex related. Life is so busy at the moment too and I just cba, I'd rather stay single.

Ooh you can't do that!! You've got to tell us what happened 🤣

Hi, I don't wish to carry on seeing you. All the best, you.

I'd call him and just say you don't think the two of you are compatible and you aren't ready for a relationship anyway. He may ask why, but you can just say you don't want to get into because it won't change anything. Wish him well, say goodbye and hang up. Breaking up by text, IMO, is rude, unless the person is an asshole. Ghosting is also extremely rude.

Oh god !

Call him and explain you’re really busy and have a lot going off and you’ve decided you don’t want to be dating now and you want to be single.

If you fizzle texts out then it’s still on your mind and it’ll make him feel like crap, if he’s a decent guy then I’d just be honest - then it’s done. Sometimes being harsh is the best way .

Please don’t ghost it’s horrible. Just say you wish him well but you’ve realised you aren’t compatible and you need to end it. No need to go into great detail - a simple this isn’t working for me is fine.

ghost

Just say you don't think you are right for each other but you wish him all the best

I'm confused, were you not aware that he poos? I'm guessing there's more to it than that?

And why didn't you dtd? So much info missing from this post 😂

Agree with this and other pp making same points.
Just be considerate enough to let him know where he stands.
All this avoiding the truth malarkey is just spreading out the upset piecemeal.
It's only been 6 weeks, he'll be able to get over it in due course.

Come on op we are all anonymous here 😁

Doesnt have to tell us private info,if you dont want to continue,tell or txt him in a nice way but be clear your decision is final.

He left a skid mark on a bedsheet didn't he?!

That would be a no from me.

Did he come in the bathroom and do a poo while you were in the shower?

Either that or he decorated her toilet bowl.

This is so cruel

Don't do this

Oh come on. It's an anonymous forum. Poo issues?

I agree!

I think it’s ok to dump by text after 6 weeks. I think if I were him I’d prefer that.
But anyway, yes….poo issues you say?

He left a floater? Skids? Sharted? Sharted during BJ? Doesn't wipe?

Come oooooon

If it makes you feel better, I dated a skidder. He left a skid mark on my lovely bedding AND did a horrific fart during a BJ. Then I dated one who left marks in the loo the first time he stayed over.

We clearly need more deets here….