The ick - how to break things off

[Nanick]

Just this weekend I've got the ick with a man I've been casually dating for the last 6 weeks. We finally got round to dtd over the weekend, but for reasons I won't go into we didn't. What a let down. He could get it up, so that wasn't the issue.

There were some other things too - poo related 😳 And I'm just not feeling it.

How do I break it off gently? Dwindle text communication so that he gets the idea? I don't want him to think this is just sex related. Life is so busy at the moment too and I just cba, I'd rather stay single.

Ooh poo 😳

I keep coming back to see if there's any new poo info,
Sad really.

A text is better as it saves his face.

Why would you say all that waffle if it's not true? No need to ghost or be rude, but why lie?

Poo related?! Spill the beans!

As soon as you say someone didn't do anything wrong they know they absolutely did.

Because we are really a bunch of 10 year old boys 😆

I agree.- don't give any 'reasons' or anything he can argue with

Who cares if he thinks it's sex related

Because she asked how to break things off gently and it’s kinder than telling him she’s got the ick for sex and poo related reasons

I'm not sure about this. If there was a 'jobbie' while they were on the job, at least telling him gives him the opportunity to sort himself out. Although a grown man should know not to have any Klingons on the starboard cheek.

This thread is the funniest thing I've seen in ages....love you guys 😂

As for the original question, I think 6 weeks is actually ok to finish by text, plenty great suggestions of words but ultimately it's down to incompatibility. That's what you spend the first year or two trying to find out....6 weeks is no time at all.

Thank him for lovely times....life is short and brutal, and if he's done nothing unkind to you other than not being right for you, he deserves to hear kind words albeit delivering a hard message. xxx

By text yes. Ghost or slow fade -no.

I can't really answer that very valid question.. Morbid curiosity I guess

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I don't want him to think this is just sex related

Why? What does it matter what he thinks? You’ve only known him a few weeks and you’re never going to need to see or talk to him again.

Just tell him that you don’t think you’re right for each other and that you wish him well.

I think he revealed a poop fetish and OP isn't so keen,

Maybe he makes straining noises like in the austin powers poo scene

Or leaves skidmarks

"Dump" being the operative word lol

This is the best option.

Don't ghost that's tight, 6 weeks is a bit of a time isn't it, it's not like first date vibes.
Just send him a text like, Hey, I've really enjoyed spending time with you over the last few weeks but on reflection I've come to terms with our incompatibility, I don't think we should see eachother again but I wish you all the best in the future, thank you :)

Then ghost....

I did this once to a guy and he asked me for feedback. So I ignored him, im not here to psychoanalyse people, I'm here to find love. You do your own journey and I'll do mine haha!

I also think texting in this day in age is wholly appropriate. Especially if you've only been dating for 6 weeks. You never know if someone will turn out nasty and violent. Sending a text will create that distance and safe space to get your point across.

The OPs done a pump and dump, poor form

Literally a dump 🤣 sorry

I'm weird too then what happened.. 🤣

Best breakup I ever received was clear and succinct. Can't remember the exact phrase she used but it was along the lines of:

"I don't want to go out with you anymore, it's nothing you've done I'm just not feeling it."