Anyone else trying not not to contact a guy part 2??

[YouAreAllMySymmetry]

Hey loves @namechangeforthis5 @Frith2013 and whoever else I can think of.

How we all doing?

I'm having a weird night; I've been drinking and guess what skill it reminded me I've developed: crying out of one eye. It means that people generally don't notice, in the car, or lying on the couch or in bed.

That's sad, isn't it.

So, 60 hours no contact and really struggling.

just want to say hi, see how her daughter is getting on with work experience, see how she is, see if it has changed anything?

annoyingly did see this morning for a split second. Finished my run, walked past shop in village and as I glanced to make sure no one was turning in she went past. Both I think gave an awkward smile.

just no idea what she is thinking.

Put the phone down. Put some music on and sing along... you can't think of her when your belting out a tune!!

You can do this!!

@FloydPink if you want - pm me.. we can exchange running tips.

I almost sent a text this morning and managed to refrain. V proud of myself. The journey continues...

Keep going!!

It's been a week since l last heard from my ex-FWB.

As long as he continues ghosting me l will get stronger. A poster on another thread gave me a "shake" and said they were cringing and embarrassed for me that l continue to message him when he obviously has no interest anymore.

I needed to hear that to make me realise how desperate l must seem.

Urgh it's gross isn't it when you have to confront it.

Ah but I can think of her with songs. 😂a lot of stuff I associate with her because of songs in commons etc.

Day 4 for me.

I don't bloody believe it... he's messaged me. FFS

Of course he did. He missed the attention. Mine continued on and off for two years until I blocked him.

This!

@NeedToAskPlease what did the message say? This is like me Saturday night with the missed call although I didn’t get a message 😂

Very long message explaining how busy he is and apologising for not giving me more of his time.

I've heard it all before though

@namechangeforthis5 would you mind if I sent you something so that I can get it out of my head? Don't think I can PM on the app actually but maybe if I log in on desktop.

@FourToTheMFingFloor
Yes of course 😊

Oh yeah I used to get that constantly

Like why would they message saying they’ve been really busy when you haven’t actually messaged them 🙈🤣. It’s all a game

I need to channel this. Need to stay in contact with my one unfortunately, but definitely need to reduce my contact considerably. Especially stuff initiated by me. It keeps being misinterpreted anyway.

I like the idea of belting out a song every time I am tempted. Need to start carrying my headphones.

Right I’m now at the what the fuck was I thinking point! Six weeks in and nothing since I said I’m not playing and he said ok apart from a random late Friday night missed call. How could I have got so sucked in? Bit worried about myself

Yikes!!

just had a message! We had been no contact since sun night as per posts, possibly coming out of it tomorrow.

“fed up with this now, can we chat. I still want to meet tomorrow if you do”

so tomorrow 1 year since first date. Had said should we meet up anyway the other week as both would be miserable. Still no ideas what this means though. Chat and tell me it’s friends only? Tell me it’s neither of us?

@FloydPink why are you giving her the control? What do you want? What would make you happy?

What would make me happy is for her to say she had thought about things and that I would make her the happiest person. And that this whole thing was a wobble and move from there.

she has control because she is the one making this decision. If I push then I could push her away.

I really get that and I can’t imagine how difficult it is but please consider if you want her to keep fucking with your head like this. You seem such a nice person and she doesn’t deserve your love and devotion to her. I hope I don’t sound like an arse

@FloydPink to an outsider, she comes across as horrible.

Day 6 for me. Guess what? No reply!

There won't be any replies now. I've blocked him on everything.

I'll take his stuff back when he's going to the shared hobby we have. I won't be going there for a month because I don't want to see his silly face. Frankly.

I mean, I'll take his stuff back while he's out.