It's a WhatsApp and Partner one....

[Overthinker2024]

Casually glanced at partner's phone when he was on WhatsApp. At the top of the chats was an 'archived' folder, it wasn't there the last time we were looking at a family chat message on his phone. So it's recently appeared.

I've figured out an Archived folder stays at the top of chats if you still receive messages from whoever you archived.

Hmmm has made my spidey senses tingle a bit.

Can anyone shed any light if this seems suspicious? Or am I being daft? Thanks!

Could be many reasons. You're going to have to go Columbo/Vera and have a nosey in it.

You obviously suspect foul play or you wouldnt be asking the question.

He's obviously hiding something from you but it could be completely innocent like a very dull work conversation

I originally thought along those lines but why would anyone archive a normal chat? I don't understand it's purpose....

I archive lots of chats - especially ones which are group chats and have lots of posts. (I mute and archive).

Is your birthday coming up?
I always archive chats when discussing Xmas and birthday presents for my DH

That's not correct.
Archive chats all go on top of the chats now whether or not you still receive messages from those groups/people.

I archive chats all the time to protect my energy level: work chat groups when on leave, friends when I don't want to block them but don't want to see their messages either.

Do not go looking at it! Ask him if you are curious.

I've got all my work WhatsApp groups archived.
I don't have to leave them but I don't get all the notifications so it's just easier.

Tbh, with the options for secret and disappearing messages on WhatsApp I don't think archiving would be the way of hiding something of someone wanted to.

My archive moves around depending on updates that whatsapp do.

I wouldn't worry about this, it is likely just an update.

Same! Because me and DH use each other phone's sometimes and I don't want him to see anything pop up for birthday/surprises so I'll archive that chat.

I like your optimistic approach! My birthday isn't until next year, he has said he wants to marry me but we aren't at a stage of him proposing any time soon, as we have life logistics to sort. So I can't imagine it's a chat that's to do with a surprise for me...

Oh man how would I know if he was doing that?! Paranoia overload now 😅

I think archive folder always stays at the top. I have 2 exs in archive. You don’t get notifications if they message. I use that to make sure I never reply straight away after break ups. I guess also might be useful to hide notifications from a partner. But also annoying work groups etc!

I would probably check who is in the archive if you get a chance.

It's not worth being this paranoid without any grounds for suspicion. Whatsapp is just one of many messaging apps so where do you draw the line.

Or maybe you do have grounds for suspicion🤔

You won't.

Get off his phone! Get a hobby also?

I've lots of archived groups for kids sports etc.. & boring chats .. wouldn't be worried about it

I archive stuff on WA all the time. Nothing inherently suspicious about that!

I have a full and plentiful life thanks 😊
So much for the Sisterhood eh?

This is something that happened after a relatively recent update. I personally wouldn’t be concerned on the basis of this alone.

(And I don’t receive messages from anything in my archive, but it’s still there, all ancient stuff I’ve long deleted from my main feed…)

Like others I archive work group chats, old group chats, annoying people whose messages I don't want to be alerted to straight away. The archive folder appears if you pull down on the screen. I'm not sure why you've immediately jumped to the conclusion it's dodgy unless there's a back story, I've glanced loads of stuff on my partner's whatsapp (names I don't recognise, unsaved numbers, archive folder) if he's on his phone next to me but it honestly doesn't occur to me to assume anything. Whoever he's messaging is his business and I have no reason not to trust him (I'm not one of those who blindy trusts their partner unconditionally, I just work on the assumption he's truthful unless I get evidence otherwise). Do you have a reason not to trust yours?

Unless he's given you reason to be suspicious then let it go.

Chat conversations are private and has nothing to do with you.

I honestly wouldn't think anything if I saw this on my DH's phone. Has your partner done anything that makes you doubt him?

Yes I think this is a recent update as pp too because I noticed this on mine recently. I clicked in thinking there would be new messages on old groups but there wasn't.
Tell him you noticed and it's made you feel anxious for whatever reason and ask to see them to reassure you.

Archive appears at the top of my messages too, and I haven't used them for years.

I’ve just checked my what’s app, my archives are at the top. No idea how long it’s been there as don’t really use it. Just clicked on it and the last message in there is from 2023.

I think if something this small is making you suspicious then you have more issues then archived chats.