It's a WhatsApp and Partner one....

[Overthinker2024]

Casually glanced at partner's phone when he was on WhatsApp. At the top of the chats was an 'archived' folder, it wasn't there the last time we were looking at a family chat message on his phone. So it's recently appeared.

I've figured out an Archived folder stays at the top of chats if you still receive messages from whoever you archived.

Hmmm has made my spidey senses tingle a bit.

Can anyone shed any light if this seems suspicious? Or am I being daft? Thanks!

My phone is Android and if I archive a chat it goes beneath all chats so isn't visible, UNLESS I set the archive chat to notify me of new messages then it appears at the top of all chats.

Android also here.

My advice folder is on top of the chats.

Depending on your android phone, updates are rolled out at different stages. You may just be on an older version as that's how mine used to be in the past.

Mine is android too and all archived chats are at the top since the latest update.

Honestly, unless he's given you a reason to worry I would try and forget it. Like other people said, there are so many messaging apps and things people can hide things if they want to. There will always be ways of people hiding things, but usually there will be things that set off your Spidey senses too. So unless something is making you wonder I would try not to worry.

Thank you ladies for the support. I'll put my big girl pants on and get over it.... orrrr fester on it until I blurt it out and make a tit of myself!

I haave loads of archived chats why do you think its suspicious?

Just try and have a crafty look if you know his passwords etc. Its only going to eat away at you otherwise.

I don't know his passwords, I feel like if I start doing that it's not really healthy 😕
He is rarely on his phone, his attention is always on me thankfully. I think just noticing the archive folder has made me paranoid I guess.

My Archived chats is always at the top in
Whatsapp .. just looked at it, not been used since September 2023

Why are you paranoid over his phone ?

It's not healthy to be like this in a relationship.

He was very popular with the ladies before we got together.... he has blocked all exes, but I know they would swoop in in a heartbeat if they could.

Best to speak to him directly if it's bothering you because that's not going to be helpful for your mental health in the long term! It's easy for us on the other side to say ignore it but we're not in your situation and I can appreciate how thoughts sometimes take over our logical thinking.

On my whatsapp, I've noticed the "Archived" folder has suddenly appeared at the top of all my chats. I have NO idea why! Inside is only old chats, all from years ago. I don't remember ever archiving them. And I haven't messaged those contacts recently.

That said, in your shoes I would still snoop, as that's just the way I am.

I archive a load of chats that I don't want to see. If you mute them then you still see the notifications every time you log into WhatsApp. Archiving means you don't have to see that messages are there unless you go to look.

Just looked further, in my archive folder the latest activity was in January 2024, when my DD changed her phone number. So it would appear that a contact changing their number, actually updates your phone. If that makes sense. All other chats are from 2020 and 2022. I had no idea they were there!!

I would send him a nice photo or a link to a restaurant or holiday. Then next time you're out forget your phone or have it run out of battery. And say ooh I want to look at that link
I sent you can I have your WhatsApp to find the message I sent you.
Then see how he reacts

Archive is always at the top, and I use it loads for all WhatsApp groups as stops notifications coming in and cluttering up my inbox (is that what you call it?!). No way is that suspicious on its own.

Just recently an ‘archived’ folder appeared at the top of my messages, I haven’t, knowingly, archived any messages. Just checked it and it has just one old message from my husband in it which I’ve possibly archived by mistake with a slip of the finger.

If you’re worried about it ask him, you’ll probably be able to gauge if there’s anything wrong by his reaction.

This⬆️

I archive all the time my DH doesn’t - I am not hiding anything he can look at it anytime he likes?

Why are you so paranoid?

So you feel insecure and not good enough.

This could ruin a great relationship if you start checking his phone etc.

He's chosen you OP not the others 😉

This....

You also don't seem overly happy that it appears to all be innocent.

Are you self-sabotaging?

I have an archive folder. I have very active chats among big groups in there because it means I don’t keep getting a million notifications. Completely innocent.

I noticed this on my phone, the archived folder wasn't so visible, but after an update it's now at the top of my chats.

You don't have anything to worry about based solely on this