Boyfriend searching for massage parlours!!

[mollybbb]

Need some advice, I have been with my partner for 6 years and have recently had a baby who is currently 3 months old. Have felt as though out sex life has reduced a lot since we have had our son but I have been feeling like he hasn't been bothered about sex since having him and he didn't find me attractive anymore. So I went on his phone just to be sure there wasn't anyone else. I found on his search history that he had been searching for massage parlours in our area and for prostate massages near us. I feel comepletely confused I confront him and he said he searched it as he was curious. Just want to know what other people would do and how they would feel as I am unsure. He was also watching a lot of porn with "Thai lady boys" :/

OMG, This is painful.

Straight men 'generally' don't watch gay porn. That's a valid statement to make, although ironically most gay porn is performed by straight men.

A 'ladyboy' or 'Trans' having sex with another man is technically gay porn. I accept that.

A 'ladyboy' or 'trans' who is having sex with a female, is not gay porn IMO - It is no different to a man having sex with a woman...

If a man is watching heterosexual porn, because there is a penis involved does this make him gay? Because lets be honest, this is the same as the above scenario.....

A vast majority of woman watch lesbian porn ( of those who do watch porn ) - Does this mean that they are gay and are not interested in a heterosexual relationship?

I’ll repeat myself for the final time, I will not be engaging with men on mummset in any way shape pr form. I’ve no idea why you need to be on a mumsnet forum. I will not be replying any further to anything you say.

Begging the question.

He’s watching gay porn. He’s almost definitely gay. That’s make it easier to separate at least, and it’s nothing you’ve done.

He might say he’s bisexual. Bi now gay later, almost always.

Hopefully you can both find a path to be happy, in different relationships.

OP look at it this way

at a time when you are at your most vulnerable - and have just gone through pregnancy and birth for your husband! he is looking elsewhere for sexual satisfaction. He should be turned inwards to his family right now - not thikning of himself and massage parlours and porn.

the problem with porn use - is that it encourages a constant search for self fulfilment sexually - porn is not about self control or consideration. It is about a constant fulfilment of every possible thought or interest - that is what you begin to want more and more of if you spend too much time on porn sites

Personally I think it's wrong and gross for a man with a 3 month old to be thinking a lot about porn let alone anything else.

I have never heard of a massage parlour that does prostrate massages but a quick google actually shows a number of health benefits

Oh well that's OK then, presumably it's also OK for a woman to have sex with other men under the guise of health reasons then, as long as it's part of a massage?
What a ridiculous defence.