Would you trust my boyfriend

[karlaka]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2+ years.

He broke up with his ex over the phone (it was a long-distance relationship but within the same country). She apparently always wanted a clarifying conversation in person, but he didn't want to meet her in person anymore.

About 4 months after their breakup, she texted him saying that he was the worst, as she rightly suspected that he was in another relationship. Of course, she blamed him for that.

Then, last year before Christmas, we were lying in bed watching something, and she wrote to him on LinkedIn saying that he probably texted her, but her phone was stolen while she was on vacation, and she gave him her new number so he could message her on WhatsApp.

He explained to me that he had sent her a message on WhatsApp weeks ago, which didn't get delivered, in which he asked her to return his keys (after 2 years by now), as he wanted to give up his apartment. Since she didn't respond on WhatsApp, he went on her profile on LinkedIn a few times. She saw that and therefore sent him the message. However, he assured me that he has had no other contact with her otherwise.

Would you believe that? Why would one think, after 1.5 years of no contact, just because the person clicked on your Linkedin profile and your phone was stolen, that the ex might have sent a WhatsApp in the meantime?

With kindess, get some fresh air. Nobody can give you the answer to this.

Of course not, but still, does it sound like smth that could be true?

The question is, do you trust him? Obviously you need to sit down and talk.

Oh aye, he wanted the keys back after 2+ years and contacting her and arranging to meet her (knowing she'd wanted to meet in person since the split), was easier than getting a set cut to hand in?

Give your head a wobble.

And while you're at it, give his a wobble and remind him you didn't come down in the last shower of numpties.

No, I wouldn't trust him. Is he really saying the only way to get that key was to get back in touch with her? He must think you're mad.

What other way is there but getting in touch and asking her to return the keys via mail?

He didn't arrange a meetup. He was simply asking for her to return the keys

He doesn't need the keys!

You know that, we know that and most of all HE knows that.

If he doesn't want to say they're lost, he could get new ones cut.

No-one would be any the wiser.

Yes because he wanted to contact her and he thought that was a decent excuse.

It's not.

After two years he didn't want her set of keys. He really didn't.

No, I would not trust him an inch.

well it's not easy to get new ones cut if it's not your apartment but a rental apartment.

I'm sorry what?

Why does that prevent him walking into any key cutters in the country, and asking them to cut them?

This makes no sense, can you explain a bit more?

We're not based in the UK. You would need the security card to prove that you're the owner of the apartment to get them cut. And even so, it's going to cost you approx 200 EUR

Why is it not easy? I rent and have never had that problem.

Cross posted with you OP.

I'm not sure what your bf is up to - could he show you the messages he sent her?

If he really didn't want to meet her he'd pay it wouldn't he?

And why would he assume she'd even have the keys after two years?

Most people definitely wouldn't.

he asked her to send the keys via mail not meet him

You must have a reason for not trusting him beyond this, as you present it as plausible. (Though I can't see why he wouldn't have asked for them long ago if he wanted them so much). Otherwise, why not take it at face value?

All the excuses you are making for him (rightly or wrongly) suggest you do trust him so what's the issue?

And you don't think it's strange he thought she'd even still have them?

Wise up, he wanted to contact her and he did and still no evidence any of it had to do with keys anyway.

You say this happened last year? You clearly don't trust him anyway if it's still bothering you now.

People are telling that they wouldn't trust him and why, you are defending him and finding excuses.

What do you think happened?

I think he asked for the keys, but maybe they also texted about other stuff

It seems like you're defending him OP. Lots of pp saying it looks dodgy but you're not convinced?
I don't see why she would send her number for WhatsApp, if he's already asked for the keys via linkedin? And yeah, why on earth would she still have them? Noone normal keeps redundant house keys for two years.
So, where are these fabled keys now?

He never messaged her on Linkedin! He just clicked on her profile a few times he said and then she sent him the message on LinkedIn asking him whether he had messaged her on WA and that she lost her phone.

If you keep making excuses for him, you'll always get what you've always got.

Why are you thinking about this now if it happened last year?