Would you trust my boyfriend

[karlaka]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2+ years.

He broke up with his ex over the phone (it was a long-distance relationship but within the same country). She apparently always wanted a clarifying conversation in person, but he didn't want to meet her in person anymore.

About 4 months after their breakup, she texted him saying that he was the worst, as she rightly suspected that he was in another relationship. Of course, she blamed him for that.

Then, last year before Christmas, we were lying in bed watching something, and she wrote to him on LinkedIn saying that he probably texted her, but her phone was stolen while she was on vacation, and she gave him her new number so he could message her on WhatsApp.

He explained to me that he had sent her a message on WhatsApp weeks ago, which didn't get delivered, in which he asked her to return his keys (after 2 years by now), as he wanted to give up his apartment. Since she didn't respond on WhatsApp, he went on her profile on LinkedIn a few times. She saw that and therefore sent him the message. However, he assured me that he has had no other contact with her otherwise.

Would you believe that? Why would one think, after 1.5 years of no contact, just because the person clicked on your Linkedin profile and your phone was stolen, that the ex might have sent a WhatsApp in the meantime?

So why didn't he ask her the first time he looked at her linkin profile instead of stalking it. Why did the ex have to ask him what he wanted?

None of it makes sense. He might not have wanted to rekindle his relationship with her but it does come across as him not being 100% committed to OP anymore - and that is why she probably feels unsettled.

Well OP the reason you suspect him is that you know he’s a cheat because he cheated with you. So that’s the bed you’ve made 🤷‍♀️

Honestly OP, I think you just need to trust your gut on this. I've read the other things you've written about him after another poster pointed them out. I really think you are spending a lot of time, energy and emotion on someone who doesn't deserve you. Please look after yourself, it's horrible being in constant fight or flight mode. You should have more than that, and want more than that for yourself.

No I wouldn't trust him, you already have absolute proof that he lacks integrity, and that he'd happily cheat if offered the right circumstances.

what was the actual message from her via LinkedIn/
Was it, i had my phone stolen and thought you may have whatsapped me, heres my new number.
or
I see you've stalked my profile a few times but haven't messaged, what do you want?

If he wanted to ask her for the keys back and had effectively been ignored on whatsapp, surely he'd simply go on linked in, send a message and job done?
Why just apparantly look at her profile and do nothing?

Sorry but it doesn't seem to add up. It sounds more like they had been in contact, she had her phone stolen and so wasn't able to message him as then didn't have his number and so sent a message through linkedin to let him know the reason she'd stopped being in touch last few days.

Ask him to see the whatsapps.

And the key thing I think is red herring. Why would she still have keys after 2 years? Think about it. She'd of given them back or he'd of got them back by now. Thats likely the only thing he can think of as to why she may message him should you accidently see a message from her come through.

Did you see the linkedin message come through, or did he randomly just announce to you 'oh ex has messaged me through linkedin because.........'

Wring thread, sorry. I've reported it

I must be as naive as you OP because I think it's a perfectly valid reason to contact her with the money and hassle involved in replacing this sort of key. If he's giving up his apartment it would seem relevant. Just wait and watch for them to be returned. Not everything in life is a Poirot mystery.