Do your parents tell you they love you?

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And vice versa? Growing up my parents never said it and still never say it. Is this unusual as my oh and friends parents say they love each other all the time?

Yes. My Dad always ends every call with 'bye, love you always'

I don't think it's generational because my parents were born in the 1970s. Dad has always hugged me but mum hasn't. It feels weird when she hugs me now. I don't think either verbally said I love you to me but I know they do. I don't think my situation was that different to many of my school friends (born in the 90s). I tell my daughter I love her everyday.

Lots as children. Not really as adults but it's not something that feels lacking, it's just switched from a verbal "I love you" to more love language behaviours that as adults we read, understand and reciprocate.

I tell my child I love her multiple times a day and vice versa. She hears me tell her step dad the same.

No, but people were mostly less expressive back then. I do remember finding it odd when a couple of friends said it with their parents, as it was definitely unusual. They always showed me they loved me and still do. I say I love you every day to my kids now.

My dad does, all the time. We're like ying and yang and have a wonderful relationship.

My mum on the other hand hasn't told me she loves me in years, and she has never in my life told me she's proud of me.

I'm in my 20s, diagnosed with an incurable cancer, but I still work full time and have a beautiful little girl. Mum fakes her own cancer diagnosis and tries to sabotage everything.

I'm so glad I have my wonderful dad. ❤️

Surely - its cultural and generational.
And there is a difference between words and actually feeling loved. I find that words are easy - but actually making someone feel loved is much harder. Applies to parenting and relationships as well.

My mom never did use the words, but I never doubted how she felt as I was clearly her priority.

In w relationship - I’d find constant ‘love you’s really fake. And even more so if someone can’t be bothered to make any effort to be a good partner in day to day life.

I don't think it's generational because my parents were born in the 1970s

Which makes your parents, younger than a considerable number of posters on here. My Dad was born in the 1920s.

@Grapesgrapes I’m a Gen Xer like your parents and would agree that it’s probably more personality-based for our generation.

I don’t constantly say I love you in a casual way to my teenagers, it’s generally a hug and I love you at bedtime, although we sometimes have spontaneous hugs during the day.

It’s lovely when your towering teenager suddenly hugs you in the kitchen and says I love you, Mum in his deep growl, for no apparent reason. 😍

Oh @nupnup , that made me well up 😢

Well, for what it's worth, this wee chunky Scottish lady here is proud of you - you (and your dad) sound wonderful 💕