Do your parents tell you they love you?

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And vice versa? Growing up my parents never said it and still never say it. Is this unusual as my oh and friends parents say they love each other all the time?

My parents both died some time ago, but I don't remember either of them saying it in words, however, it wasn't something I ever doubted, and it was shown through actions.

I do think there is a generational element to it.

No, never.

My mum- yes every day
my dad- never

i tell my DS I love him all the time 💖

My dad is 79, my mum 75, they both say it regularly, hence I am not convinced it is a generational thing, I think it is about personality types and family circumstances. My dad is officially one of the silent generation but when it comes to expressing emotions he is anything but silent. But we went through a series of rocky and very sad situations in the lates 90s and first decade of the 00s… so I think we’ve all learned to be more expressive.

All the time. They also tell me they are proud of me and that I’m beautiful. They also take the piss (recent attempt to wear a white waistcoat, jacket and trousers set with a hat had them crying with laughter as it reminded them of the guy that works on the fish counter - tbf I had already rejected the look so wasn’t offended). We are very close and have a lot of fun.

No never. Nor did they hug or kiss their dc. One of them showed signs of love in behaviour and commitment towards dc, work ethic to provide etc. The other parent I doubt loved us, just did the bare minimum which I suppose is OK.

My late Mum did, my Dad rarely. He mainly uses me as his emotional crutch.

I regularly tell my teenagers that I love them and happily they say spontaneously to me as well, which is lovely. 🥰

Absolutely never. Never hugged or kissed either, but TBF I'm pretty certain that they didn't love me or my brother (abusive childhood) so we never felt safe or loved anyway.

I met DH when we were still teenagers at school, we've been together for over 40 years and we tell each other countless times a day through actions and words that we love each other. We don't have children but we do have multiple pets and they too get hugged, kissed and sung to every day 😍

Never but I know my dad did, not sure about my mum though. I used to tell DD every day that I love her and was proud of her )something else I never heard from my parents), now every text/phone conversation between me and DD will always end with " I love you" from each of us.

😂 no!

Maybe it's a British thing not to say I love you. Of the stiff upper lip brigade. I have trouble saying it too because I was brought up that way but nevertheless, I tell the DC I love them.

No, mine never said it, not once . I only have one memory of "sharing emotions", and that was when my Dad was very ill in hospital and receiving narcotics for pain. It made him ' "off the planet" and saying lot of odd things. At one stage, Mum, my sister and I were all sitting around the bed. Dad looked around with a goofy / loving look on his face, and he said " How lucky I am to have the three most wonderful girls in the world here with me ! " He didn't say he loved us, but he looked at us with love. He is gone now, but I always cherish that moment.

I'm 40, my parents are 71 and 74 and working class.
No they've never said they love me and I've never said I love them, but there's absolutely no question that they do.

Never. And now at 38 I'm starting to unpick and better understand the effects my childhood have had on me.

Yes, my parents say it to me and I say it to them and to my kids.

My parents, yes constantly.
My in laws have never told my husband they love him.

I grew up in the 60s/70s and neither parent ever did. I don't know if other people's parents did back then.
My mother was very narcissistic and controlling - I don't remember ever getting any kind of affection like a hug from her either

No very often now, because I'm 50.
We do amongst the siblings every now an them, they are fully grown with grey hair as well.
We all say it a few times a day to the little ones. And they say it as well. It really warn my heart, that suddenly the little one comes to see me and give me a cuddle saying, mum I love you, I missed you today at school.

I was born in 1974 and my parents said it a lot - this is despite them being very stiff upper lip people to dislike showing emotion. They always thought it was important to tell us.
I also remember friends' parents telling them they loved them.
I tell my children every day.

My mum never did, maybe when I was too young to remember it. Dad never has and if he suddenly said it, it would be so out of character that I’d be really worried!

I don’t say it to my DC either, but I always call them my darling/dear/etc - I don’t speak English to them but it all basically means ‘love you’!

Another 70's child. Mine were very affectionate and always praised and told us they were proud of us and how great we were.
They would never say they "loved" us as that was considered a bit naff and cheesy.

I think my mum did when I was little. Not as a teenager though.

My dad did. When we said good by when lessing the house. When we said good night. And when I was an adult every day when we ended our nightly phone call.

Now I tell my kids i love them everyday. And definitely when they leave the house.

My older teens /young adults won't be seen dead giving me a hug🤣. My younger teen and 2 primary children will hug every day . My 9 year old says love you at least 20 times a day 🥰😅

I’m 75, my parents told me they loved me. I sat with mum when she was end of life. She opened her eyes. ‘Are you still here X, yes mum. I’m here. I love you X she said - I love you mum, I replied.
dad less likely to express love verbally but he did occasionally
i tell my adult children I love them frequently - because I do.

Every conversation

Mine very rarely said it and their parents didn't either. They do now though and tell their grandchildren all the time. They see how happy it makes the kids and my dad says he loves hearing it from them too. Growing up I was well aware that I was loved though, mum would always cook special meals for us, they'd take the time to listen, very affectionate with hugs and kisses and always supportive and sacrificed a lot for us. We are asian and in their time it just wasn't the done thing.

I tell my kids I love them daily and I give and receive lots of hugs and kisses. I'm not a natural hugger in general but it's easy when it comes to my own family.