Do your parents tell you they love you?

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And vice versa? Growing up my parents never said it and still never say it. Is this unusual as my oh and friends parents say they love each other all the time?

No I have never heard my parents say I love you to me or there was never any hugs or kisses or signs of affection. This was just normal in our house growing up but now I realise that while we were looked after they were never demonstrative with their feelings.
My children come in every night and say I love you to me and DH. I would never have dreamt about doing that with my parents then and if I did it now I don't think they would know what to do with it.
I now realise that I don't have a warm close family and that makes me sad. I can see it with my parents and my children too that they are not warm or close to them, merely just functional. On my DH's side there is much warmth from them than from my side of the family.

It’s strange. I’m older - 56 - and my parents never told me they loved me. It just wasn’t thing in the 60s and 70s. And yet I never ever, for one moment, thought anything other than that they loved me, unconditionally and completely. I know they did and in my mom’s case, still do. (I lost my lovely dad 25+ years ago).

I tell my kids ALL the time that I love them. They do the same to me. But the feeling is still the same. I think it’s intrinsic. Whether it’s spoken or not.

Sometimes the “love you!” Sign off can be less meaningful than another expression of love.

No not all parents can say it they are adequate and' know any better .They think the ability to know how to use an alarm clock FFS ,bitter.

Mine have never said it and I’ve never said it to them although I know they obviously do. They are a big believer in actions speak louder than words. I think it would be massively awkward if they just randomly came out with it now 😝

Friends have expressed how weird it is that they have never said it but they are just not the kind of people to say stuff like that.

I have kids now and I do tell them all the time that I love them ❤️

No. And we never hug either but I’m fine with it. I’ve never ever felt for one second that I’m not loved.

We’re really close and they would be the first people I would go to in a crisis. My husband’s family tell each other that they love each other more often but I wouldn’t say they are anything like as close as I am with my family.

I much prefer love shown through actions than words

My mum used to say it when I was little when she kissed me good night but not from about 9 or 10. My dad was affectionate but never actually said the words. On his death bed he held my mum's and my hands and told us he loved us. My mum said, " you haven't said that for 50 years" . I couldn't help myself I replied " bloody hell dad, you're one of the worlds great romantics " . He did smile. My son and I say it every time we speak in person or by phone.

They never really said it but they absolutely show that they do and I have never felt unloved by them

Yes absolutely, both my parents tell me every time I speak to them. Whenever we see each other they give me, my OH and the GCs big hugs and kisses and tell them they love us. They are in their mid 70's, they have always told my sister and I they loved us.
I tell my OH and DCs I love them multiple times a day, lots of hugs and kisses as well.

Every single day, both of them. Vice Versa. My husbands parents do too.

No. My parents didn't tell me they loved me or showed any affection at all when I was growing up. No hugs or kisses. I grew up in the 60s/70s. I have always told my DC I loved them. We hug each other.
A few months ago I stayed a weekend with my brother and we talked about this.
Our mother died 24 years ago. He was with her when she died and just before she died she told him she loved him. He says he was really surprised as she never said it before. He said he thought at the time "why did you wait until now to tell me?" As we talked about it I suddenly recalled that a few months earlier when she was in hospital I hugged her as she was upset. At the time I realised, because it felt odd, that it hadn't happened before. Neither of our parents had ever shown any affection towards us. It was just the way things were. Our father died suddenly alone in Spain aged 80 12 years ago. So my DB and I didn't see him before he died.
My brother and I hug though; and are very aware of how much we mean to each other.

They didn't when I was a child.
Then I had my children and told / tell them I love them regularly.
Then my parents started saying it to me.

They did when they were dying. 🙂.

All my life them to me and me to them, and even today, I’m 38. I realise I’m very lucky to always have had this and don’t take it for granted.

No mine didn’t, but I knew they loved me.

No they never said it. The first person who said I love you to me was the little girl I was babysitting for when she was 5 and I was 15.

Parents, grandparents,brothers,sisters always say it and now so do the grandchildren lol

My dad has told me that he loves me a total of 3 times - I’m 54. We never hug/kiss hello or goodbye. We were never told they were proud of us, ever.

My mum never did when we were young but she does occasionally now.

It’s very sad and has definitely had a negative effect on my life.

My 2 adult DS are still told, on a regular basis, that they’re loved and how very special they are.

Never as a child! My mum does now write it in birthday cards and messages. However she regularly tells my kids that she loves them. I also tell my kids an infinite amount of times, every single day that I love them.

No

I'm not even sure if they do love me, but they love my children immensely and that is enough for me

I also tell my children a ridiculous amount of times per day that I love them and I'll never stop, even when I'm 80 and they're in their 50s

DM never did that I recall. DF said one say when I was about 10 or 11 and probably stressing over 11 plus that whatever happened and whatever I did they would always love me. He died when I was 13 and I don't think anyone ever said it again.

Every single day growing up, and now every time we end a Phonecall.

I'm the same with my DCs, we must say it to each other multiple times a day ❤️

Yes, always been vocal about loving us as well as affectionate with hugs and kisses. I have never doubted for a second that I am unconditionally loved, which I’m very grateful for.

My mum does frequently. My dad does occasionally.
When I was young I ended a phone call and was heard by a senior colleague (not exactly in work time, I wasn't in trouble for using my phone!) I ended the call "love you too!" and she said "your partner?" I said "no, my brother" and she looked really really uncomfortable. I don't think all families say love, and for some it is only for romantic relationships.
My mum in law and step mum in law both tell me, but not usually until they are on their 3rd drink! FIL doesn't but we get on well enough!

mum sometimes, dad never, but I always felt loved. I had a great childhood and have a great relationship with my parents still, they’d do anything for us siblings. They were always dependable and created a secure happy family home so I don’t feel one bit bothered by it. It’s just the way they are

Same 🥰

You never know when the last time you will get to say it to your parents or hear it from them will be, so say it with feeling every time. ♥️