Do your parents tell you they love you?

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And vice versa? Growing up my parents never said it and still never say it. Is this unusual as my oh and friends parents say they love each other all the time?

Mine did a lot as a child. My mum thought it was important that we knew we were loved.
We don't say it so much as adults. As a family we're a bit shy about that sort of thing! But when I was ill a few years ago she told me they loved me.
I really don't need them to say it now as I sense it so much. I'm glad they said it a lot when I was growing up. It made me feel secure.

Never.

I tell my two daughters at least 10x per day!

All the time. We never put the phone down or say good bye without saying I love you.

No. My dad used to say it loses the meaning of you say it all the time.

I have gone the other way and tell my children daily/I love them.

'See you later, love you'

Night Love you.

Phone calls I always end with 'I love you' etc

I think it's important to let your children know. I don't care if it's overbearing I would rather my kids know that I love them and will never question it.

no (my father did when I was younger)
mum mother has severe mental health and we do not see eye to eye. I feel I ruined her life

I have a very affectionate relationship with my own kids

Nope. I'm 55 and have never heard it from either of them. I'm pretty sure neither of them do - my father never wanted children and my mother had them because that's what a good Catholic woman raised in the 50s HAD to do. I think both of them disliked being parents.

I've got two brothers and none of us have gone on to have children of our own.

My mum, never. Never an affectionate or attentive parent and never told us she loved us.

My dad used to tell me all the time, everyday. If woke during the night, he’d text me and tell me he woke up, loved us and he loved his DGC. He sadly passed away early this year. I tell my DC multiple times a day I love them.

Yes (though they are long dead). My mum in particular was also affectionate. And I tell mine (19 and 20) and they tell me, and we are quite a huggy family.

Sadly my mum passed away.

But yes she always told me she loved me. At the end of every phone call or when we left each other. Bye, love you.

As a child it was the same - I was told daily.

I tell my children multiple times a day. A bye is always accompanied by a love you.

My parents - never
My current household says it frequently

No, my father was quite emotional but I think felt pressure to present very macho. He didn't really express emotions like love, I think this came from his ubringing and how things were at the time so I don't really blame him for that.

My mother, however, is a narcissist and does not have the capacity for love. She never said it, apart from when lovebombing me, particularly just before I finally cut contact with her. (Best thing I ever did). It was hollow and didn't ring true. I am accepting that she is not capable of love and does not love me. She never did.

I tell my daughter every day that I love her, I don't want her to doubt it and I don't think she does.

DM will right it in a card but neither have ever said it out loud. I tell my children every day.

Adding on that the first time I witnessed my partner's mother saying it to him, and kissing him on the cheek, I felt deeply uncomfortable. A mixture of 'ewww!' and feeling really sad and jealous that I never had that.

I've been no contact with my father for 35 years and very low contact with my mother for 20. Both narcs and they were goddamn awful parents.

My parents never said it when I was a kid but I knew they did love me. They do say it now sometimes.

I think it's a US TV import, and a v welcome one as far as I'm concerned. My kids & I say it to each other all the time.

My late father told me in "his" way a thousand times over (he was old-fashioned Chinese, if that makes a difference) He told me I was "a good girl/a very good mother/a very good daughter" & he showed me he loved me every single day - helping me with childcare from newborn (he retired at 59, so was "available" till he was 89 when he passed) He cooked weaning food/laundered & ironed the childrens' clothes meticulously/ironed all my husband's shirts/cooked for the family/fixed everything around our house, tirelessl/did the school run/they babysat.
He was incredible (mum too - just very different & she still "helps" me with little things in her 80's) and mum tells me she loves me nearly every day - I was/am very lucky. Not saying the relationships were/are "perfect" at all - there were many challenges - but I knew I was loved & so did they & so do my 3 DC

Never. But I doubt that many parents did in the 1970s - it would all have been way too embarrassing.

This is helpful because I thought my parents were unusually cold but perhaps more common than I appreciated- I was born in 1983.

I find hugs and kisses with them hard now they are older because it's so unnatural to me.

My dad has started saying 'send my love to everyone' etc and I find it bizarre, he's never said I love you mayhem.

Like lots on here I am very affectionate with my children and they are in return - I could see my mum found it difficult when my teen linked arms with me, almost in a jealous way. But she doesn't get that physical contact because she never allowed it.

My mum told me all the time when she was alive. My dad has said it a handful of times, but his family aren't very loving, and I doubt he heard it from them much, if at all. I do still tell him I love him though, and I know he loves me, even if he doesn't verbalise it. I tell my daughter that I love her multiple times a day, and she's a very loving child.

Nope never, from either parent. Born in late 70's, DB in early 80's.

As PP said, I have found this thread helpful as thought it was just our parents.

I've always told DS (now 21) and made a point of ensuring it was never in doubt.

Nope never from my parents. Lucky if I get an acknowledgement of my existence from narc DM. DF tries his best with me now and I appreciate it.

I tell my DC I love them several times a day.

I say “I love you” to my parents at the end of any meeting or phone call. And they say it back.

I don't remember mine saying it when I was a child but since getting older and nit living at home they do.

Parents, no they didn't say this. 🙁

No never. I don't really know if my mum did love me tbh either.

I tell my kids all the time and they always tell me they love us too.

No, it's just not who we are to say I love you to each other, but I know they do and they know I do 🙂
We're all really close as a family and actions sometimes speak louder than words.
I do still like to tell my kids I love them every now and again though