Having or not having siblings as an adult

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Hello!

I would like to hear how people feel about being an only child as an adult.

Also if you are someone who has a sibling 9 ish yrs younger/older than yourself, how did you feel about that as a child and an adult. Are you close?

Or anyone with children with that large age gap, how do you find it?

I am umming and ahhing about having a 2nd, but my son is 8 so he will be at least 9 years older than his sibling. I keep talking myself in and out of it.0

i have a 6 years age gap with my sister
growing up we weren’t close
probably not until we settled down and had babies
i speak to her most days
we work together sometimes too so
we also call each other a lot to discuss work.

my children have an 8 year gap
the eldest loved her younger sister foe the first few years
but youngest has very challenging behaviour
which makes it difficult
but they still love each other
and even thing they are 14 and 6
when we go to the park or soft play
eldest will go off with her

i quite like it
i get to different types of days of with them separately now
but also we can still do nice things together

This is how I feel too - like I was an only pretty much throughout childhood (DB and middle DSis were super close and stuck together at 8 & 10 yrs older than me, and oldest DSis left home when I was about 3), but as adults we're a really tight knit family. I don't think anyone feels hard done by or that our DPs should have made different choices (though as I'm the youngest I'm sure they probably wouldn't tell me if they ever wished I'd not been born 😅)