Carrying children, DW went nuts

[midnighthour123]

Hi everyone,

Very confused about this.

Sunny weekend, all went to nearby forest. 2 kids (5 and 8), im a very hands on'y dad, love playing with the kids, games, carrying, sand pits, playgrounds - love to get involved - just love it. I'm very involved in lots of other stuff too, homework, school runs, cleaning, running the house etc.

Exiting the forest place going back to car. both kids want to go on my shoulders (taking turns was not enough...., for them). It's weekend, sunny, so.. ok, I'll lift you both. one on shoulders, other carried. I can handle it easily (I'm also building in the house, commonly lifting and moving very heavy stuff, regularly).

DW has a melt down, "its v. dangerous for health and safety", "you should not be carrying 2 kids, nobody else is doing it, its dangerous, its embarassing", (we are in a forest car park walking back to the car, on the side, not in anyones way, kids happy, im totally fine).

I was in the wrong?

There is nothing l hated more than seeing danger with something my dh was doing with the dc and him not listening to me. He is quite a risk taker and l'm not but l didn't want my day upset by having to worry or get anxious. Fine if l wasn't there. So please just see your wife deserves to be listened to.
And it makes my heart stop seeing kids on their dads shoulders without total care and attention which is not possible while carry another child. sometimes move away as l cannot bear to look!

She’s just jealous because you do it better than her

OOI, how did you pick up the 5yr old with the 8yr old already on your shoulders? Did you bend forward, not holding the 8yr old, while they gleefully held onto your head, then stand up abruptly, still not holding them even with leg pressure until the 5yr old was fully lifted and in place? Was that the point where your wife got anxious about it?

I wouldn't like it. I was always taught to never mess around in a carpark, they are not safe places to act silly. I would want a 5 and 8 year old to be taught that messing around stops as the entry to the car park and we walk to the car sensibly.

And maybe the mother was just aware of the multiple incidences like this one:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dnainfo.com/new-york/20100317/central-park/child-falls-off-his-dads-shoulders-central-park-knocked-unconscious-police-say.amp

I think what you did was fine and I bet the kids loved it.
She was probably pissed off/hot/tired, nothing to do with h&s. Prob because you were being more fun than she was