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Is this rape/sexual assault? Or am I being dramatic?

108 replies

ChristmasEveBaby2022 · 14/05/2024 00:36

I was with a man who I have been dating for a few months and have just become offical, we where doing other stuff together but I had expressed to him that on this occasion I didn't want to have vaginal intercourse with him, I have just started taking a new birth control pill that day which has to be taken for a week before being protected from pregnancy so I didn't want to risk that and I was bleeding slightly aswell so didn't feel comfortable too. He tried to put it in and I said no I don't want to, he was very persistent, I even put my hand in the way to physically stop him but he was very persistent, and pinned me down, there wasn't any stopping him. I did ask him to stop during but when it was clear he wasn't going to I said just don't finish in me and said he wouldn't and promised he wouldn't and then he did. I asked if he had and he said yes and I said I told you not to, I asked you not to and he just said "I thought you where joking" I had to run downstairs because I was so overwhelmed with worry about accidently getting pregnant as I am not in the position for that and he followed me down said I was "dramatic" and that he had "finished in lots of girls and never gotten them pregnant" and "it takes some people years to get pregnant" he's 32 and I'm 22 so the immaturity blew me away, not to mention he already has a child to his ex girlfriend. I'm now very worried, I spoke to him about it in the morning and he was just laughing about it. However we where both drunk, I was engaging with him sexually in other ways and I have had rough sex with him before and I feel like I didn't put up enough of a fight and so for these reasons I'm blaming myself, would this be classed as rape or sexual assualt? Or am I being dramatic?

OP posts:
MariaLuna · 16/05/2024 18:25

I spoke to him about it in the morning and he was just laughing about it.

What an utter creep and I'm so sorry you had to go through this horrendous experience.

DO report him to the police. He sounds like he has form for this and the sooner he is stopped, the better.

similarminimer · 16/05/2024 20:39

susiemamma · 16/05/2024 16:11

How are you OP?

It's in the op

Ineedaholidayyyy · 16/05/2024 20:49

I'm so sorry he raped you, your boyfriend (hopefully now ex) is a rapist and I fear this will not have been the first time.

I know it's awful but you could visit a GUM clinic, ask for a morning after pill (has to be within 72 hours) and have some tests done to check you've not contracted any STIs.

Then if you are able to do, report him to the police.

susiemamma · 16/05/2024 21:13

@similarminimer
I know that. I replied earlier. I am asking how she is feeling.

QueenBitch666 · 16/05/2024 21:25

He raped you. Fucking toe rag 😡

similarminimer · 17/05/2024 08:49

susiemamma · 16/05/2024 21:13

@similarminimer
I know that. I replied earlier. I am asking how she is feeling.

So sorry - mortified - thought you were asking how old she was. Really sorry to be snarky and derail - aplogies to you and op.

Littlestminnow · 17/05/2024 09:02

This is so bad I genuinely think you should go to the police.

susiemamma · 17/05/2024 17:20

@similarminimer Smile. No problem.

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