Is good sex worth leaving my Husband

[Mariah24]

Me & my Husband have been together for 15 years, 2 children aged 8 & 11. I started having an affair around a year ago. I know it’s bad, it’s so hard to explain, I love my husband but we have problems in the bedroom department, which leave me feeling unloved etc, though I know it’s really not that. My Husband loves me so much.
However the sex I have with this other guy is out of this world & really don’t want to give it up.

I know I need to make a choice and also come clean to my Husband. Just I honestly don’t know what to do, life is otherwise mostly good at home. I know I’m being selfish & I know sex isn’t everything, but why can’t I let it go.

Read this back as if a man was asking.
How would you feel if you were in your husband's/children's shoes

Your right sex isn’t everything..this sex you’re having with this guy is better because you shouldn’t be doing it …he makes you feel sexy …it’s forbidden fruit …does he actually want you to leave your lovely hubby …I think your making a big mistake …I should know I done it 20 years ago and still live to regret it .>we had problems in the bedroom but I would give anything to go back in time think long and hard

You should leave the poor bastard, anyhow.

I agree even though I done it many moons ago he deserves better as my husband did

If this post is genuine the you need to come clean with your husband.
Divorce and go your separate ways.

You shouldn't have cheated in the first place. You could have talked to your DH and tried to work on the sex issue together or you could have ended it if you both gave it your best and it still wasn't what you wanted.

There is no other advice now than to tell your DH what you've done and then the ball is in his court. Unless you want to end your marriage and walk away then just do so. But you don't get to carry on as you are. Absolutely disgusting behaviour.

These things always happen for a reason. Feeling unloved is quite a strong statement - your emotional needs not being addressed maybe. How have you each tried to resolve this? Have you ever had a really good talk about how you feel with your husband?

They’re definitely not being met. Theres a bit more to it than in my main post, but can’t really say on here. We do talk and I’ve told him how I feel on numerous occasions, but nothing changes.

Amount of times I think to myself that I wish I had never started it, but I did. I don’t think it is the excitement because we shouldn’t be doing it etc. It’s genuinely the best sex I’ve had, he’s the only guy that has made me orgasm, it was a totally new experience for me.
It’s like I’m addicted to that feeling, it’s sounds crazy and I know people will judge, laugh etc.

We have talked and have tried.

I will be telling him either way. I know the behaviour is bad, I didn’t plan for this to happen believe me.

It is exciting but it’s wrong please don’t make the same mistake as me

It’s like I’m addicted to that feeling, it’s sounds crazy and I know people will judge, laugh etc.

You must have psychic abilities

Does the other man want a relationship with you? Is he single or married?

Really? Why not?

Given that sex is one of our primary basic drivers as human beings, evidenced by a huge global industry built on meeting people's sexuual needs, I don't think it is all that surprising or controversial that you feel like you do about enjoying good sex.

It is just a shame it is not with the man you are married to, because that would be better for everybody.

You haven't said what else - if anything - there is between you and Mr Hotsex? Love, connection, friendship?

He’s single.

He would have a relationship with me yes. Though I’m not sure if I’d want one with him.

He’s basically opened my eyes to a totally different experience sexually. I’m never gonna get that with my Husband and I don’t know if I want to stay in a relationship where I’m never going to be satisfied like that again. It sounds so selfish. It is selfish!

I cheated and thought it was solely to experience good sex for once, but it showed me there was so much more missing from my marriage. I left and have found a much more fulfilling relationship.

I bought a womanizer from Love Honey. Incredible orgasms and my kids are all still happy 🤷‍♀️.

Your situation is what made me realise I was being so unfair to XH. I divorced, the AP and I didn't come to anything. XH remarried. I'm still single. And so much happier with my life.

Get a decent vibrator and stop seeing the other guy.

Leave DH if you must but great sex won't last forever.

I never knew what I was missing out on. Honestly thought I was just one of those women that just couldn’t get to that point.

I really wish it was my Husband making me feel like this too. I feel that if I stay with him I’ll start to resent him a little as he can’t make me feel like that, which I shouldn’t.

There’s definitely a connection there, we get on really well.

There’s definitely something missing, otherwise I wouldn’t have done what I did.

I honestly think if it wasn’t for the kids, I would have left before the affair started.

I’ll give it a try. 😂

I know I’m being really unfair and he deserves better than this.

I’m a strong person & would get through things, whether or not me and this other guy carried on. Though my Husband isn’t which worries & scares me a little!